Future daughter In law

Stop paying for anything!! You owe them nothing. This is not your wedding and you should not be treated like this.
If they speak to you in such a disrespectful way go for
“DIL did you mean to be so rude?”

The mother son dance.

My son never asked me to dance at his nuptials! I shall be having strong words with him when I see him next.

How do I keep calm. Without showing hurtful feelings.
The fixed smile, works in all kinds of situations.
Keep practising

^ her mother informed me to make 6000 cookies and don’t forget the bags^
What kind of cookies? Choc chip?
Do you have a recipe please?
How do you keep the first ones fresh because this could take a while to bake that many.

What kind of bags - are you using cellophane? Do you have to tie up with special ribbon with keepsake little tags?

Please let us know in case any of us have to do this in future.

6000 cookies??????? Crikey!!!!

I cant offer any advice as its so far from expectations - good luck !!!

Welcome mommie6 if you are new.

call a family meeting and suggest if they want you to pay then they need to give you choices or no money coming from you - sorry but i dont think this is a good attitude whichever culture it is from - it is verging on abusive from your description xx

Oh dear, I had some similar problems with my DD MiL we were not allowed to have a list if names and addresses to send invites to their friends and family even though DH and I were paying for it all. SiL had to take a pile of invites to his mum to write
I sympathise, but don't really have any advise. I think phoenix may be right.

I'm guessing that the bride and her mother are from a different culture?

Mommie6 are you UK based?

Not really liking the sound of this................