how to advise and support pregnant daughter

I agree with Elaine be there to support and help if asked otherwise let the couple sort out their problems. It's one of the hardest things to do standing by and watching our adult children struggle but that's what we need to do.

Do you get invited to many parties Gabriella?

Gabriella, you sound like a joy to be around ?.

Just be available when your needed good times and bad

Like others - I don't think you can offer detailed advice/solutions. She has to decide with her boyfriend what they want to do.
Tell her not to panic, there's no rush to work out what will happen further down the line and that you will be there for her whatever she decides to do. If she allows herself to feel trapped, she may make a panic decision; realising she does have control and choices may help her to stay calm. Encourage her to recognise her strengths and tell her how wonderful she is (without being OTT).
Practical help, your presence, cups of tea, and the odd treat with some laughs thrown in where possible are probably the best support you can give just now.
There's no reason why your daughter and her child should not have a positive and fulfilling future whatever way it all works out with her boyfriend.

* ex sex

muffinthemoo
No, of course not.
I'm talking about young women who have ex on the first date and think they're in a relationship after a week.
I'm talking about women who know that the government is always there to support single mothers with housing and money until the child finishes education.
The fathers often (but not always) abdicate responsibility but IMO, responsibility lies at the feet of those who have sex without taking sensible precautions.
Condoms or the pill used in a timely manner, are very effective but females must learn to check that their partner is not using excuses not to use them.
After a night out with a few drinks it's forgotten about.
There are two people who bear responsibility, not the rest of the taxpaying public.
When you bring children into the world, you need to be in a stable loving relationship, have a home and jobs. Otherwise, who pays...?

Early pregnancy is tiring and raging hormones making emotions run rampage. Why not treat dd to relaxing day at spa if you can afford it. Do not offer relationship advise. It is a definite no no. Just try to offer a few hours relaxation. My dd loved it when i dropped by with a home made lasagne, so when she got home from work tired she did not have to cook.

Having 6 children I obviously hadn't enough headaches , not a recommended method

Gabriella and how is that supposed to work in a marriage? Have a headache for fifty years?

Suggest you mentions emotions will be all over the place as early stages. Perhaps DD should give just a few weeks to see if still feels the same. But, do not become involved in conversation or anything, matter is between DD and boyfriend.

You must not take sides - mop her tears, hold her hand, but do not criticise her bf.

sazz1
Abstain.
Women have sex at the drop of a hat nowadays.
No morals or dignity.

Sorry Willow

She needs to talk to her boyfriend and they need to work something out between them. Whatever happens there is also a baby to consider and the practicalities that will involve whatever they decide to do. Please encourage her to do this but be around to pick up the pieces if things go round.

If they are having a child together can they get some sort of counselling? It's hard work being a parent and doubly hard being a single parent so she should think carefully about ending the relationship unless there's abuse of any type in it.

Stand back and listen. Whatever you say how ever good
your intentions, or you agree with, may at some stage rear up and fall back on you and not always with a happy ending.Make this clear to your D. but whatever the outcome would always, as a mum, 'be there'.

Seffy138, I think more context is needed before GNS can offer full advice to you. Like, how old is DD? Where will she live if she breaks up with her partner? Does she have a job, and if so, how well-paid is it and how "secure"? (And will she be eligible for maternity leave?) How close is DD to you, geographically and emotionally? More info, please!

No contraception is 100% unfortunately. I know 2 people who were pregnant on the pill having never missed a single tablet and a man who fathered triplets after a vasectomy. Nothing is foolproof except a hysterectomy.

It puzzles me why unwanted pregnancies happen these days. There’s just no excuse with so many forms of contraception. My heart bleeds for the number of unwanted babies that come into this world through a ‘moment of passion’.

Notanan2 - I haven't watched the recording yet!

All you can do is tell her you'll support and help her come what may.

If she then descends on you, your help will entail getting her to the right people so she and baby can live independently (if that's what you both want).

How exciting, a new life and grandchild for you. Congratulations

I would stand back and just be there when necessary,you will not be thanked for any advice or comments which can't be taken back in the future.
Your DD just may be frightened of the future and feeling hormonal just be there with the door open for when she makes a decision of what she is going to do regarding her relationship.

Unless she's very young, or there's abuse,don't get involved. My elder daughter left her partner shortly after she had their baby. I was dreadfully worried, but bit my tongue and just helped with practicalities when asked - and it's all worked out great for both her and GC's Dad so I'm very glad I stayed neutral. They both seem happier apart and they share care of GC very well.
Younger daughter however was still a teenager when she became pregnant by an older, abusive male so we had to take her in and look after her while she learned to be a mother.
That's the only kind of dramatic circumstance under which I would become involved!

Oops this isnt the Shetland thread..