Anyone else's husband turned into a Grumpy old man?

I have your husbands twin here in Fl. It’s so frustrating. It’s like he has “checked” out.

I'm a widow so the grumpy husband is not an issue for me. I do notice that all the social things that retired people like to do seem to be almost all women and any men there are with their wives. Adult education classes, keep fit, over sixty swimming, U3A, book clubs, social clubs, lunches out etc. I've done all these things and it's very rare to see any men. While most women are busy, a lot of men seem to sit at home and not do much.

My ex had a very black outlook on everything and he seemed to resent any one around him invading his space. He never wanted to do anything (unless it was in his interest) or go anywhere (unless it was in his interest) very selfish man but I blamed his mother for making him like that.

My new man is the exact opposite, very optimistic, cheerful and will go anywhere and do anything to please me ?

a lot of men seem to sit at home and not do much
Elusive butterfly On the contrary! Unfortunately this is a common misconception.
I have a cardboard cut-out of myself seated by the front window to deter burglars and prying eyes of gold-diggers, whilst I'm out living it up!
Hope your man-hunt is soon successful!
OoRoo

Rufus, I'm not on a man-hunt, I'm quite happy being single with an active social life (in normal times).

Not my husband, but my part-time partner- ish, is a regular Victor Meldrew. I would go as far as to say that ranting is a hobby of his. Woe betide any telephone sales people that dare to dial his number. THEY frequently hang up on him.

When the parking priorities changed in his area a few years ago he was so incensed that he waged a major one-man campaign about it. Printed off documents and posted them to all his neighbours.

I am not often in the country now, but when I lived there and saw him regularly, he had a rant allowance. No more than two rants a day in my presence.

Well theres a grumpy old man here as well. I would have retired but got offered a two day week and took it as the thought of 24/7 with Mr Grumpy was quite depressing.
The other thing I don't understand is why he's always in a hurry, which makes me forget things. and makes him clumsy which then causes arguments.
He's constantly in a rush. We walk the dog twice a day for about an hour at a time and then he'll sit watching the news on the TV when we get back so I don't understand what the rush is.