Perhaps this is where your DH can gently say to her, 'You know, Mum loves you very much, try to be kinder to her.'
You're his wife and he should see what's happening and be on your side.
If he doesn't.... tell him.
Tell him how hurt you are, that you feel like an outside in your own home, that all it takes is for your daughter to speak lovingly to you sometimes; share her thoughts with you; ask how you're feeling. The things any loving daughter could be expected to do with her Mum.
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