elderly mother with narcissistic personality disorder

I think it is pretty easy to know what a narcissist is, they care about no one but themselves,have no empathy and are risk takers, that is not all of course, and even if not diagnosed as having NPD they have all the traits,i have been married to one, and recently ditched another ,
I know people can be self centred and selfish, without having NPD but those traits are bad enough to live with,if not a full blown Narc,
There are not many who would be willing to be formally diagnosed anyway,they are worse than just being self centred

sodapop
To me Maria57 is simply saying she uses NPD as her way of expressing her mum's personality.

"that is how I have 'diagnosed' it" hence the inverted commas

My mother was diagnosed with NPD. I still suffer mental scars from living with her, and she's been gone for many years now.

The only thing that made life bearable towards the end, was the fact that she got dementia. She was actually quite pleasant then.

Sorry I can't help - I'm not aware of anything which makes NPD less destructive. Good luck.

There certainly seem to be plenty of people with this disorder around. Many seem to have been diagnosed as such by friends or family, rather than by properly qualified health professionals.
People used to be difficult, selfish and self centred now they are narcissists.
I am sorry ziggy62, both for your difficult relationship with your mother but also that you no longer see your children and grandchildren. I hope this can eventually be resolved.

Sodapop, thanks for your input but I'm specifically looking for advice from others who are coping with an elderly mother with NPD

Perhaps we should have a dedicated thread for all those people who have relatives with narcissistic personality disorder.
How are you qualified to make this diagnosis Maria57

After more than 50 years of her behaviour and a few month after my dad died (plus my first husband had died 5 years before) I was referred to a psychiatrist by my GP. Coincidently, I had taken my mother to the same woman for counselling as a private client a few months before. Anyway to cut a very long story short, I was advised to go No Contact with my mother. I was advised if I didn't I would never get well.
It took many many months before I had the courage to follow this advice.
So, I went NC in September 2014 just after I met my new husband
Having done this she continues to find ways to contact me and sadly I no longer see my 2 children or my 3 grandchildren. The whole family has been destroyed by her behaviour. After the death of my father she just went completely out of control
I really just wanted to know if any others on here are dealing with the same situation

Hi - I must have joined this site two minutes before you posted and what a coincidence! I am not sure if my mum has NPD but that is how I have "diagnosed" it. I try not to "rescue" her and try very hard to protect my time and my plans whilst at the same time making sure I show her some attention and give her time. Its hard and I feel guilty. ' really don't know and will be interested on your thoughts and anyone else.