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Time to live it up - or not.

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narelle222 Tue 02-Jul-19 06:42:25

I have been widowed for quite a while and a very old male friend has been in touch. We used to date before I married and it was rather serious -- but he lived far away.
He has asked me to visit him and stay as long as I wish and I really want to go. My problem is that we had a very intimate relationship all those years ago and I am keen to just let things flow and take the visit as it comes. Is this a good idea? He has no ties and is free to do as he wishes just like me.
My children tell me to go and do whatever I want - but do not come home pregnant. Joking of course! I know I am lucky to have this opportunity but feel embarrassed to admit my hormones are racing - even for an 'old' girl. What do you think?

Sara65 Tue 02-Jul-19 06:46:50

Follow your heart

Anja Tue 02-Jul-19 06:53:06

Do want feels right

Sar53 Tue 02-Jul-19 08:12:33

You only live once !!! Xx

annsixty Tue 02-Jul-19 08:21:06

If you decide to go, then go but with no expectations.
A lot of water has flowed since then, you have become different people.
Physically and emotionally you both will have changed.
I wish you well.
Lost opportunities are the ones we regret.

Pantglas1 Tue 02-Jul-19 08:24:55

How lovely narelle222 - go with whatever you’re comfortable with and obviously your children’s blessing.

Bridgeit Tue 02-Jul-19 08:33:26

What are you waiting for, best wishes

GrannyGravy13 Tue 02-Jul-19 08:42:11

Go and visit him and see what happens.

He may be feeling the same as you.

Teetime Tue 02-Jul-19 08:49:45

Oh yes do go and take it slowly.

lovebeigecardigans1955 Tue 02-Jul-19 08:56:20

Do what feels right. Go with your common sense and your instincts.
Please remember to use protection - you may be of an age to not have to worry about pregnancy but bear in mind that the increase in sexually transmitted diseases is in the older generation.

ayse Tue 02-Jul-19 09:01:35

Carpe diet and enjoy. When I asked my daughters something similar this is what she said

luluaugust Tue 02-Jul-19 09:33:49

Yes do go, just wondering if it might be best to set a date on coming and going in case you don't feel happy with things.

EllanVannin Tue 02-Jul-19 10:05:10

Take it slowly !

midgey Tue 02-Jul-19 10:06:25

Do it!

henetha Tue 02-Jul-19 10:06:46

Go for it.... but be careful

Grannyknot Tue 02-Jul-19 10:09:55

Go for it (and I must say I don't see any reason for taking it slowly!). Life is for the living.

Tedber Tue 02-Jul-19 12:39:45

Exciting. Go for it but as someone says just go with the flow - don't go with any expectations either way. (you may find you can't stand him after a day ha ha) Hopefully not and both find a new lease of life with each other.

BBbevan Tue 02-Jul-19 14:23:45

Close your eyes and jump. Good luck

Starlady Tue 02-Jul-19 14:29:26

Go ahead, but keep expectations low, don't make any assumptions, and keep the visit short & sweet. Definitely think you should have an arrival date and an end date. Enjoy and please fill us in (as much as you can).

sodapop Tue 02-Jul-19 18:12:20

Yes go for it and good luck narelle222 starlady made some good points. Enjoy your adventure.

MissAdventure Tue 02-Jul-19 18:19:51

Oh yes, you must go.
How lovely for you both to get a second chance. smile

beautybumble Sat 06-Jul-19 20:13:38

I know how you feel. Go for it and have fun with him, as long as you go with your eyes open and play it cool whilst you're getting to know him again. Us seniors don't have quite as many opportunities to find excitement, or love come to that. So as long as you're careful, go on.

Bordersgirl57 Sat 06-Jul-19 21:21:09

Yeah, follow your heart and go for it - "if not now, then when?" (that's my new motto).

The advice so far has been great - I'd go with setting an arrival and departure date. Better to leave him wanting to see you again than it drifting on if you are uncomfortable.

Wishing you well - keep us updated!

narelle222 Tue 09-Jul-19 04:49:21

Thanks all you were all very encouraging. I have decided to go and will set a return date.....he wishes to do some touring which I will enjoy. Thanks everyone - now to update the wardrobe etc.