Finding it difficult to bond with DD

If you see her most weeks, things must be going quite well. The fact that you don't feel overly close, isn't the end of the world. We don't all "feel the love" with our families, but if we can rub along all right, things will work out fine.

You might be pleasantly surprised when the new baby comes - you never know how a baby will change things.

Just keep smiling, see them when you can and don't try to force the relationship to get closer. As grandparents we all have to be careful not to overstep the boundaries .

You cannot love everyone, not even family - and you cannot make everyone love you.

We are not all cut out to be like sisters to our daughters (some of my friends are) so be content with the relationship you have and just hope for the best with the new baby.

Leave it to her to decide how much contact; wanting to be there all the time to bond with baby, could make more problems than it solves.
And hope that she does not have the same lack-of-bonding with her babe.

Have you told her how proud you are of her, success in career and now building a family? Maybe pay her a few lowkey compliments and be a tiny bit more affectionate without making a sudden change and see if you can build on that. Remember to make a fuss of her and make sure she doesn’t feel the extra attention is because of baby, but that you genuinely admire who she is.

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Go with the flow! Nothing else to be done. No good wishing for what cannot be. I am glad that you have a relationship because going "no contact" seems to be all the rage.

We never know what our relationship with our adult children is going to be till it happens. And it sounds as though you are communicating, so maybe count that as a bonus. It may not be as close as you might have wished, but sometimes life does not live up to our expectations and we can either accept things as they are or bang our heads fruitlessly against a brick wall.

Sometimes when a DD has a baby and acquires the knowledge as to how much we love pour children, it strengthens their relationship with their parents - and makes them realise all that you did for them when they were little.

Not everyone is over each other like a rash in family relationships but it doesn't mean to say that there's no love there. I would just take things as they are and accept the way that your daughter is as at least you still see them as a family. The time to worry is if/when you are cut-off altogether as seems to be the way of quite a few lately.