How to deal with her personal odour?

No and no again.
It really should be someone closer to her who says something.
You could jeopardize your friendship with her.
Its rather like someone saying ,if my H was having an affsir I would want someone to tell me.
She/ he is the one in the wrong.
Have you not heard " don't shoot the messenger ".

Good luck, I don't think I would have the courage to say anything about it in my own house. I would be cross with myself for being such a wimp.
Years ago when all the family were at home and we were running a business with our offices based at home, we had a cleaning lady who came twice a week and took the ironing back to her house to do it. It came back beautifully ironed but stinking of chips. Thankfully after a while she relocated to another part of the country.

Are you sure the lady's not wearing some cheap and nasty smelling perfume? I've smelt some awful ones in my time,
I would be tactful and ask her if she's wearing a new perfume next week. If she says no I would just mention that you can smell something strong when she comes round and thought it might be perfume or something.
At least it will give her a hint.

Just to add that sometimes leakage can be more of a gush than a dribble.

I do wish there was a post editing feature to correct typos with..

If the smell of urine is so strong as to be very noticeable it points to a chronic leakage problem and perhaps wayward urine which escapes any pads and settles in things like jeans or trousers which might not be washed very frequently.

I think I'd have to find a way of breaching the matter with her very gently. I'd have been mortified to find out that my own leakage problems was causing an odour which people had been too embarrassed to tell me about.

If you value her then leave well alone. Open windows and use an air freshener when she leaves.Maybe someone else will solve the problem for you as you can't be the only one who notices it. I had to work with someone many years ago who had a 'problem which intensified when and which others and myself all realised it was 'that time of the month'.

Go with Madgran's suggestion. I had a similar issue with a staff member B.O. Did a Madgran did and the person confessed she was struggling at home keeping herself and clothing clean. I helped her with landlord issues re hot water and washing machine. Also offered she could use my machine and come for a shower until resolved which didn't take long. Be honest and caring and try to offer a solution or at least offer to help find one.

I'm in my 40s. I have just had bladder botox for my leaking issues. Its really not too young to have problems.
Please do have the conversation, however difficult you (and she) may find it. She hopefully will thank you for it. She obviously isn't using any products or isn't changing them often enough.
Can you maybe 'have' some products that you don't 'get on with' and offer them to her, by way of a conversation starter?? Good luck

I agree bluesixty.

Many years ago at work, we had an office cleaner who had strong body odour. She was a great lady - happy, kind and friendly. Yes the room stank, but we just opened the windows after she'd left. We never said a word as it was just for a short time.

She may well have a problem about which she is aware so I wouldn't mention it.

Have had to have these sorts of conversations with a few people, male and female, over the years, as I worked with adults who were quite disadvantaged for a variety of reasons, some of whom had a 'blind spot' when it came to personal hygiene/odour. I found that the best way to broach the subject was to sit down with together with the person and to gently enquire whether they perhaps had a health issue, as it had been noticed that "they aren't smelling as fresh as they usually do" If you can do this kindly, maybe asking whether there is a health issue, maybe a new medication (some of which can cause an awful pong in that department) ...or even, a problem with getting laundry gone regularly. It's surprising how many of these hygiene issues can be tracked back to a very practical problem which the person is dealing with. The trick is to keep your tone gentle, your voice kind and watch your body language...don't avoid eye contact - if you can show that you are speaking from genuine concern and want to help if you can, most people will respond to that, albeit after a shocked silence and a few tears. Just be kind - imagine if it was you yourself with such a problem - you'd want to know, wouldn't you? I think that there are some good suggestions from OP on this thread and I hope that you can help this lady to sort her problem out with losing her dignity, or her job.

I would be mortified if I hadn't been told of the smell but I find it strange that her family are all spotlessly clean as you say in your post.
Is there any chance she is wearing the same cleaning clothes that she wears when she goes to other homes and has possibly sat in something ? as I find it hard to understand her not being aware of her own cleanliness.

Madgran, you ask ‘what’s it all about? I’ll tell you....it’s living in a village! If even a word of this gets out, either through telling the cleaner ( however nicely!) or a friend or relative or neighbour of the cleaner, then the OP risks an almighty row at best or being ostracised at worst by the people she knows.

It’s either a put up with the smell situation or tell her that she isn’t needed anymore.

oldgimmer I sometimes think I've entered a parallel universe on this site.

Quite - join the club oldgimmer I am astounded

Perhaps, subtly, ask her if she'd like to borrow a tena?

If she's not using your toilet, then she must be wetting herself ? Is she nervous about using your facilities at all ?

I wouldn't be able to say anything in this situation, I would find it too mortifying!

If she is a good cleaner, then stay out of the way while she is there and go round with an air-freshener afterwards!

I agree with madgran. That’s how I’d want someone to treat me. It’s the kindest way.

If it is so bad other folk she cleans for will have noticed.

I think I would ask if she has had a problem with uti's. I never had a uti in my life until I went through the menopause then I had one after another. I had so many anti biotics that I have become resistant to several (worryingly). In May last year I contracted sepsis following an operation - things were touch and go for a while but I lived to tell the tale. Following this my partner and daughter used to comment about the smell of urine on me (I could smell it to) - asked for a urology referral and following this I was prescribed oestrogen in a pessary form and to date, this has sorted the problem. Not had a uti since starting this and the awful smell has stopped. I know it was family members who spoke to me but I would have felt ok had it been a friend who mentioned it. I'm sure if you have a tactful conversation she will thank you for it ?

Poor woman. It seems really sad that some people would just get a new cleaner. We see lots of complaints on GN about the advertising for problems down below but when we are asked for advice about them, we want to bolt. It is exactly why those adverts are needed so people don't need to be embarrassed by these issues.
OP, if you can't find a way of broaching the subject, you could get some leaflets about bladder problems from the Dr and how to get help and leave them where they can be seen.

It would be awful if she lost some of her income over this. Have a kind word with her. Reassure her that you won’t tell anyone else about your conversation about this.

Please tell her.

I remember many years ago passing an old lady & there was a strong aroma from her.
I said to my friend if I ever got like that you would tell me, wouldn't you?
She said yes.
I'd hate to think I was giving off a wrong scent.
Always put it down to old people, my DH had a maiden aunt & her house used to stink something chronic, hence I think a gentle word done in a gentle way has to be done.
Tricia x

I think I'd put it that you are having a similar problem and ask her what she would do in your position.
You could always buy a pack of Tena or some other pant liners and say that you had been sent a sample and got 2 lots by mistake so wondered if she would like to try them as well ?
I wonder if it is not actually her, but somewhere she visits or even she may have an unneutered tom cat that sprays everywhere?

Pop in an anonymous note?
And word it a way that doesn’t sound like you?