Strange male friend from the past

You didn’t say you had met up in your original post, just about the phone calls and messages.
Is there anything else you would want to add?

Hi silver lining I actually sent a reply to your message but to grand-tante !

This is not “Male attention” this is telephone sex and creepy
Have you ever asked yourself what he is doing while he talks about sex with you? Has it never occurred to you?
Thank goodness he is in another country.
Block this number now !

Hi calendargirl we did meet up once and he also mainly talked about himself and sex !

Thanks grand-tante JE65, i have tried to combat loneliness by joining some groups for instance I go to dancing class and Italian; I get on well with people, they are friendly but we only see one another at the classes and nothing in between so not always sure what to do ?

Kikki agree with the other posters, he sounds a bit controlling and too keen on physical relationships. Be careful and bear in mind things he says about his life, ie divorce etc, may not even be true.

Try to make a life for yourself by going out, joining things, meeting other people in person making friends and not spending too much time at home.

Wishing you well.

He sounds creepy, I would cut off contact. Sounds like you’ve never actually met up which is probably a good thing.

I think you should be very, very careful here.

I get the impression that he certainly wants more than friendship, and I do not care for what you say about his behaviour.

To my mind, he is trying to dominate the relationship by wanting you to phone or message him more than you feel comfortable with.

Nor do I like the thought that he mainly or only talks about himself. If he really wanted your friendship he would be wanting to hear about your life.

Could you not find other ways of dealing with your loneliness? Is having a friend from the past whom you are doubtful about really going to make anything better? What does your husband feel about all this? If you haven't told him, perhaps you should, fast!