Need some perspective on this - can anyone help?
I have watched from afar as a grandmother, my age, has taken over control of one of her daughters children, the girl only - not her younger sister - by showering her with expensive gifts, holidays, paying for school fees, puppies etc. etc. - the list is endless.
This child is now 16 and a few incidents have happened over the course of the last few months which are frankly horrifying and seem to be the culmination of a long term ' grooming' exercise. The daughter protested about holidays being organised (very expensive ones) which took no account of the other daughter or the family's need for holidays of their own. Also a lavish pre-prom party was organised by the grandmother without her mother's knowledge. The mother protested and led to the grandmother telling the daughter that she was not fit to be a parent and she would have to 'take over' the child - she obviously told the child somehow that her mother didn't want her to have the lavish prom without her knowledge or go away for the whole of the school holidays on a holiday that the grandmother had organised and the mother could not have paid for anyway! The child obviously benefits from all these lavish holidays presents etc. when at home they don't have the income to support such extravagances.
I find this very concerning indeed - is there any way of rationalising this or supporting the daughter/family left behind with all this madness?
