Friendship and loneliness

Next time they mention a holiday or some event, why not ask if they would mind if you went too?

Why don't you suggest a destination for a day out, or a weekend away - then you would be included.

Yes, just show you want to be involved in their plans. When you've included yourself once that’s you in !

Thanks all. Yes, good suggestions - I'll try it - I suppose I'm someone who sits back and waits to be invited - maybe time to change.
As a postscript though - I might mention that the majority of my friends are considerable drinkers - and I'm not - so guessing perhaps they think I'm a party-pooper!

Franklin Next time your friends are talking about their holidays etc just mention that it sounds very inviting and you would like to go,they most likely think you are unavailable to join in some of their outings as you say because you have a boyfriend.Let them know that you would enjoy some more female company they probably have just not twigged on to your needs. Good luck.

You can still enjoy a night out drinker or not there is some very nice alchol free wine available

Hi. Just be sure you actually want to join the party and it’s not just a case of FOMO! If you work full time and have a boyfriend who stays over several times a week I don’t know when you have time to feel lonely tbh? I would welcome it BUT I like my own company as much as others.

However if you really want to go out/away with this group, let them know you are interested.

So you have a BF who stays over a few nights a week, you are full time so have time on your own some evenings, you're in a friendship group where the girls go on holidays together and you could go.
Sounds a good mix of life to me.

FOMO??

FOMO = Feeling on my own? ?

Oh no, it's Fear of Missing Out!

Oh these bloody initials I think people just make them up why oh why do we have to play this guessing game

My first question is how good is your relationship I understand you don’t live together but don’t you ever go out together ? can’t you holiday together? go away for the weekend? what sort of relationship is it? If it’s not particularly wonderful are you just in it out of habit or even dare I say it because it’s better than nothing think hard
Have you thought of a an over 50 s (if you are over 50) holiday I ve seen lots advertised lately I wish I was brave enough they look lovely
Is there anything you could join to widen your friendship circle beyond your few drinker friends It’s not always brilliant going out with drinkers if you’re not one yourself although you could always offer to be the designated driver I guess but finding a hobby or interest that brings in new friendships is always valuable

@BlueBelle - I think you have read between my own obscured lines to be honest, for which I thank you.
My relationship falls into the better than nothing category to be honest. And, yes, I have thought hard about what I'm doing.
I am actually very busy with many things, even aside from full-time work and I am not short of acquaintances. I suppose I am jealous in some ways - that these other women seem to be having a better time socially that I am.
For now, I'll stay on the sidelines until I feel strong enough to take some positive action.
Thanks all for your comments and suggestions.

If your friends go out/on holiday with the intention of getting drunk or needing alcohol to justify having a good time, I imagine that you, as a non drinker, would not enjoy it as much as you may imagine you would.

thanks quizqueen - I think you may have something there!

Do you really like your friendship group?

Haha - Alexa - an interesting observation - maybe not entirely! I think it's the idea of them I like more than the reality - i.e. a group of women who seem to enjoy each other's company - or do they? Beginning to think I'm better off without .