How do I get my "mojo" back?

If you are easily offended by the subject matter, please don't read on! After my youngest son was born in 1993 my ex and I became celibate by his choice. He had once intimated that he was confused about his sexuality. I used to cry myself to sleep being in my 40s and missing the intimacy but soon got used to the situation. I often said to him I felt like the housekeeper.

Twenty years later when I reached my 60th birthday, I was seduced by the local bar manager who was young enough to be my son. He made me feel like an attractive woman again. My DH found out and that was the end of our 25 year marriage. He couldn't forgive me. There followed a brief period with me trying to keep the marriage together by suggesting "swinging" to maybe get his sex drive back which he thought was a good idea at the time. Unfortunately it only created a deeper wedge between us as he wanted to go to orgies, I wanted more of a one on one experience. While we were waiting for our house to be sold, I lived in the family home and my ex lived away in our caravan.

I lost 6 stone in a short period of time and joined another adult site and found there were no end of fit, young good looking guys who loved the opportunity of having the MILF and cougar experience and made me feel wonderful and sexy again. I tired of that life though and joined a regular dating site where I met my current partner 10 years younger than me. For some reason the swinging although great at the time, killed off my sex drive. Maybe it was coincidental that I was now in my mid 60s, I don't know.

My partner knows about that time in my life, I was honest with him. But I told him 4 years ago when I met him that I was not interested in sex any more. He accepted that even though he would like us to be intimate. The thing is he deserves to have a normal sex life and I want to get my mojo back and be a committed partner. Any ideas?