Dont want to upset anyone

This sounds like the ideal solution, you can continue to see the puppy but without all the hard work that puppies can cause.

Anyone watching 'the dog house' can be in no doubt of the therapeutic value of pets. Having said that you only get back what you put in. Of course not all dogs are the right match, which is a vital consideration. Even the mildest mannered pooch is going to take a lot of commitment.

A dog is a huge commitment.

There is no obligation to have one if its not right for you.

Not a rescue, not an older dog, not a dog share.

Its kinder to say "No thanks".

A friend of mine is having a spaniel puppy and said she had been told it will be like looking after a baby so she isn’t looking forward to that stage, and she is in her forties!

We have a working cocker spaniel and I can tell you they are very high energy. Very very loving but 2 speeds asleep and calm or very active at home constantly on the go. Need 2 x 1 hrs run at a minimum every day. Suit joggers, farm or small holding owners, hikers, gamblers etc. Outdoor people who enjoy the countryside, beating and shooting, rural life. Definitely not for anyone houseproud - they shed all year round and actively seek out mud and water. Most loving cuddly dog we have ever owned but not for people with limited mobility. Good luck Hope ýou still see the dog at your sons xxx

Ramblers not gamblers lol

I'm glad you clarified that, sazz1 - try as I might, I couldn't think how such a dog would suit a gambler

Well spaniels are very intelligent lolol

You were given an unasked for pup, you can't manage it, it's happily been taken back by DS- where's the problem?

I care for my daughter (though that's not as taxing as caring for an older person ), and think I'd go crazy if I didn't have an hour out with the dog every morning - though it's another commitment. I'm much nearer your husband's age than yours.
A dog-share if they're not too far away?

Meant to say 'small spaniel'