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Silent Husband

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SandraF Wed 06-Nov-19 14:18:02

What makes an ideal coffee shop visit for you? I had one yesterday when I met a friend, had a good cup of coffee and spent an hour or so catching up and putting the world to rights. Today I drove my husband to a garden centre cafe - he didn't speak on the way; he went up to the counter and told me which cake he wanted; sat down and waited for me to place the order and carry the tray over; ate his cake and drank his coffee (all without any real conversation) and was ready to depart as soon as we had finished eating and drinking. Such a contrast, so you can imagine I don't suggest going out together very often!

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Alexa Sun 10-Nov-19 11:07:34

I have lived with three men and not one of them would have wanted small talk from me, in a cafe or anywhere else, unless the external social ambience demanded it e.g. a sherry party. and I would not have wanted small talk from him. Same with women friends;I can't abide small talk, although sometimes one has to do it.

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Alexa Sun 10-Nov-19 11:11:09

PS by small talk I mean polite superficialities. For instance if we were at a garden centre cafe we could talk about flowers , soil, gravel, or the food in a way that was not at all superficial.

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hopeful1 Sun 10-Nov-19 12:17:34

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hopeful1 Sun 10-Nov-19 12:19:36

Just tried to add this as a new thread and it's in the wrong box

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Marydoll Sun 10-Nov-19 13:08:20

Sorry to hear this.

Click Report beside your above post and ask GNHQ to delete it.
Then go to FORUMS, click on RELATIONSHIPS and NEW DISCUSSION to start a new thread.
I'm sure you will get lots of good advice.

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