Silent Husband

My DH isn’t one for talking in cafes either but we can sit in companionably silence. We have known each other now 37 years and are content to have these quiet moments especially now that we have 6 DGC under 10 in the family ?
It’s a different matter with friends especially the two whom I see the most often; we chat like it’s going out of fashion when we meet!

Illness makes it’s mark on everyone.
My husband has several conditions which inhibit his ability to hold a meaningful conversation for any length of time at home.
I understand this but feel quite isolated by it.
It’s quite difficult because for short periods of time with others he can converse as their equal. Which isolates me even more as no one understands what he is like 90% of the time!

Sorry to have taken over your thread!

It’s really whether your both comfortable with the silence and clearly your not!

I am beginning to find forced conversations intimidating and can’t wait to leave (probably due in part to the above) but on the other hand spending time with people I like is a pleasure and I find it hard to shut up!!

Plus I think lots of partnerships reach a point where they have little to say to each other.
Presumably the nub is how to address it?
Encourage conversation by talking about things he likes, or find others who like the things you do to talk to and accept him for what he is. I suppose.

Sitting in a cafe with someone without chatting would make me feel very uncomfortable. It's all part of the package....coffee, a cake and a chat. It was one of the few occasions when my husband actually talked to me, instead of picking a fight.

It might have been better to forgo the trip to the cafe and return home instead.

Now that Parkinson’s is stealing my husband I really relate to SandraF’s post. Having always been great talkers, we have now lost the art of conversation and I suspect are both tired of the sound of my voice. That’s why it is so important to keep up contact with other people, and I take every opportunity to meet friends and just chat.