Would love to find a partner

My ideal would be a special someone who lives next door, so you have your own space. Although Helena Bonham Carter did that, and it didn’t work out. Maybe someone just a couple times a week?

A widowed friend of mine was determined to find a new partner and after meeting many unsuitable men online she finally found the right one and they have been happily living together for a few years now. I was widowed 30 years ago, in my thirties, and had a wonderful husband. I always thought I would meet someone else as I was so young, but I'm still single and quite content now. I had one serious relationship with someone who turned out to be a narcissist and broke my heart and I just thought never again. I miss being able to do the spontaneous things that happen when you're in a couple, and get frustrated that as a single you're often not invited to 'couply' things, but the positives of being on my own far outway the negatives now. I think if you are determined to meet someone, and make it your mission, you will be successful. I have tried internet dating in the past but found it quite daunting. It's such a shame that dating has become so difficult, I know that young people struggle too.
Good luck - hope you find someone who adds something special to your life.

MaggieTulliver I don't blame you for thinking about wanting a life partner in your life.

After a year or two (recovering from a divorce) I decided being single wasn't for me. Eventually I put my nose into the internet world of dating and friendship sites.

I found the most useful one was a friendship website and through it I found love. I've remarried and am so happy.

If life gives you a second chance - grab it!

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Have you thought about a singles holiday MaggieTulliver? I have two friends both of whom met their second husbands on singles holidays. One had used internet dating with no success. The friend who has just married, is with someone who has a completely different background and interests. They would never have been matched by the internet route but they adore each other, probably because of their differences. Also know a recently married couple in their sixties who met via a walking group.

What a deeply unpleasant and unnecessary post hillwalker
Most posters are trying to be helpful and supportive.

Well that’s relationships dealt with Hillwalker - but did it have to be so crudely expressed?
I can only assume a degree of disillusionment or bitterness in your own experience.
(If that is “gently” I wonder what “robust” looks like.)

Hi Maggie, this might sound too obvious, but have you mentioned this to friends and acquaintances? There could be a nice colleague or relative in the background that they know is a similar situation. Recently I played Cupid when a chance conversation at work revealed a nice workmate was interested in having a relationship. I’d been hearing about my lovely hairdresser’s disastrous internet dates and cautiously suggested they both meet up. It could have been an embarrassing mistake but as I knew them both well I felt confident that they would at least like each other. They did! Six months on they’re now totally loved up and really enjoying life as a couple

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most mem just want sex

Utter rubbish.

/Hillwalker If your description at 6.30 is a portrayal of your own experience of male-female relationships, then I feel sorry for you.

That is very sad, hillwalker poor you.

Maggie my suggestion would be what others have said - join some groups of interest and you will meet some like minded people, rather than going online.
That being said, a friend did find someone online after her DC signed her up (and kept an eye on who she met!) and she met a lovely man who was a wonderful companion for years until he died. They each kept their own homes but had holidays, trips out and he was welcomed by her family and group of friends who can now share her happy memories of him.

Good luck

It's not just sex, a lot of men in their 70s are looking for women in their 60s so that they can be looked after in their declining years. I'm convinced of it having been approached a few times recently. I look at least 10 years younger than I actually am, so I have to quickly work into the conversation "when I retired 13 years ago". Then bless them they fade away. Result

I think that could be true Gaunt, some have been used to being looked after and just can't cope on their own.

That's the big downside to it! Having looked after a poorly husband for years, then lost and grieved over him, I wouldn't want to go through that ever again. I was still young and had the kids, good friends and my career too. It must be so much worse when you're elderly yourself.

@hillwalker70. I am so very sorry that you clearly have had some very bad experiences in your life. Thankfully most women I know enjoy their relationships or they simply wouldn't put up with them.

O.P. Having tried OLD (on line dating) and subsequently met a few men for one date I eventually met my present OH. Life is very much better for me (and him) as a result so I recommend it.
My only shock was meeting a Church of Scotland minister for coffee who told me that he was married to another Church of Scotland minister and trapped as they had a Down's Syndrome child. He was looking for a mistress!

Never thought I would have seen the day when I had to give a minister a lecture on morals.

I feel both depressed and nauseous reading Hillwalker70's post.

Have known several people who have very good relationships through online dating and also one that didn’t turn out so well.

It’s all more complicated now as we are all probably more wary than we were in the 60s/70s. A good piece of advice is to be aware of how a date treats other people. If they are pleasant and polite to the waiter, the shop assistant etc then they will be the same with you hopefully. If they are rude and bullying to others, be wary because that’s probably how they will be with you in years to come. Another good indicator is how they treat or speak about their mother.

@Gaunt47 - this has happened to me recently too. And I'm a lot older, but keep going, and cooking.
There are several 'old boys' on the ex-council estate where we live whose wives have died, living alone.
One of them has made 'approaches'. But one's enough .
And TG my husband is still here.

I have only just seen this.

I agree 100% with Hillwalker.

They would all expect that kind of thing.

Do you know, this absolutely disgusts me.....can you imagine if the tables were turned and men spoke about women like this?

Or people in same sex relationships spoke like this?

Men are not after sex/ a carer. What a horrible sexist attitude.

I think an ageing widower would definitely be after sex.

- God Forbid Gonegirl !.....
I'm way past that,
Just other 'home comforts'

62 is still young enough to go for it! However, only going by my daughters forays into online dating, don't bother with the free ones. If you're paying for something then perhaps the men on there are more serious about actually wanting to find someone. My daughters had too many dick pics sent from the free ones!