Marriage

Your post Tinyl is heartbreaking so sad for you both

Yes. We’ve had our ups and downs but now he is leaving me. He doesn’t want to and I don’t want him to go but he has been diagnosed with terminal cancer and I am heartbroken. Hopefully we will have a bit more time together yet but we don’t know how long.

Fibrogran your post made me want to cry for you.

Yes, absolutely. I love him more than life itself and I am amazed that he feels the same way about me. After nearly 52 years each day is precious and I am grateful to still have him.
Marriage takes work and we get on better now than we ever have done.

Yes for husband no 1, happy for 14 years then anguished for the last 3 years. No for (current) husband no 2, utterly miserable for the whole 27 years.

Yes! No question.

Very definitely, just had our 55th. We were both young and had to learn a lot, but would not change a thing.

Of course, no question.

YES - without any doubts - yes, yes and yes again. 30 happy years of marriage and still going strong!

Yes absolutely.

No absolutely not.

I didn't realise how lazy he was/is, and I have been very disappointed in how bad a dad he was/is. He was/is a very good, if distant, father, but an awful dad.

He suffers from "poor me" syndrome and can sulk for England.

I would definitely not do it again.

No, definitely not. Would have stayed with him for the first 10 years which were great but the 36 years since then have been a bit crap really.

patricia, that is awful, the biggest betrayal of all. No, not a laughing matter at all.

I dumped the first one before we got married for the second one who cheated on me. Now both have passed and I am alone with our 2 married daughters and 3 grandchildren x Would I marry him again, yes, paying attention to his mental health x

I definitely would! I was 21 when we married he was 27. It's not all been plain sailing but neither of us regret any of it and we are definitely soul mates.

Been married 40 years next year and still madly in love! Soppy I know but true.

No sadly. Congratulations to those of you who chose well xxx

No i'm afraid i would not. I knew at the church, just before my brother walked me up the aisle. He asked me if i was ready and if i was sure i wanted to go ahead with it. I was too young and scared, my mother had 2 boys and i am the only daughter. Mum spent a fortune on planning the wedding, so i was too afraid of upsetting her and wasting so much money. 41 years later and i have had such an unhappy, sad and lonely adult life. If only we could go back in time.

This is my answer to your question and should give you a laugh I had such a good friend she took my husband of 23 yrs off my hands for me

oh yes without a doubt, 45 good years when we both changed and adapted to living together. We each gave the other space and that was via hobbies and sports. A very good husband, father and provider. Sadly died very suddenly while being happy, doing a favourite sport. Wish I could do it all over again but memories will have to do

He is difficult - but then so am I. I think our phrase that we 'saved two other people' probably sums it up. We have hung on through some pretty stormy waters, so I suppose that means 'yes'.

Yes but wished we had moved away ft see other places the years before we had our two children .we have been through some rough times but also some good times .

First husband definitely yes, my best friend, partner, soulmate and father to my adored children. 2nd husband married 13 years, definitely not. Much older, retired as soon as I moved in before he was 60 and not worked a day since. Only wanted a housekeeper, cook and hostess

Yes to the man I first fell in love with. No to the one he became. A lying, grumpy cheat!

Like many others I wouldn't marry my 1st except for having my children.
My 2nd , we have been together over 20 years and are not actually married. He has recently been saying we should get married, but I'm thinking why ?

Absolutely NO.