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Fussy eating grand daughters

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mumofmadboys Thu 02-Jan-20 12:15:36

I agree with having buffet type food and let them choose what they put on their plates. It will also break the cycle a little.

Daisymae Thu 02-Jan-20 11:30:22

I would be inclined to ignore it and just give them normal food. I know that my AC would not put up with it or encourage them. As long as you know that it's something usually acceptable making separate meals is just a rod for your own back.

jenpax Thu 02-Jan-20 11:28:36

My middle DGS age 2 is a very picky eater and hardly eats at all! Yesterday we had a big family New Year lunch at eldest DD house, he wouldn’t sit at the table with his cousins and siblings so we put a small plate of food on a side table and ignored him, when he thought no one was watching he quietly took the food and ate it! We find that not making a fuss is usually the best way!

GrannyGravy13 Thu 02-Jan-20 11:21:01

We have a couple of GC like this, our solution is to put serving platers on the table and let everyone help themselves. Curiosity and being "in charge" of what goes on their plates often takes over and they will eat or try several items.

I ensure that alongside a couple of puddings I have fresh fruit, yoghurt and cheese.

felice Thu 02-Jan-20 11:20:56

I am with Midgey I would just give them nothing children will not starve themselves and if they are eating at home fine.
Sounds like they are playing games with you.
When DGS was younger he would not eat in front of people he did not know. I just left him to play quietly in the other room until the meal was over, he knew not to run about and make a fuss. I could see him clearly of course.
Now he is fine it was just a phase.

Calendargirl Thu 02-Jan-20 11:17:10

Yes, try serving up something you know they really like, and then offer them bread and butter ‘ as we know that’s all you want’.

Ilovecheese Thu 02-Jan-20 11:14:06

I would just give them bread and butter. They won't starve and your son and daughter in law can then enjoy your cooking.

midgey Thu 02-Jan-20 11:12:15

I would ignore them both! Don’t even bother to lay a place for them at the table. Worrying and stressing about them will only fuel them. If they are eating at home they will not starve.

anxiousgran Thu 02-Jan-20 10:59:41

My 2 dgds, 4 and 6 are getting really hard to get to eat anything at our house, but not at home or dils parents’ home apparently.

Until recently they ate more or less what we gave them, though we took into account small dislikes they had. For some reason they’ve got suspicious of our food. We gave them a couple of dishes which were quite normal, but were cooked a little different than at home, they wouldn’t eat it and things have gone downhill since. They seem to be getting it from each other.

Boxing Day they wouldn’t eat the roast because there was some dark meat in it, then wouldn’t have pudding because they didn’t like the dairy free ice cream I got specially for lactose intolerant dil. One of them ended up on dil’s knee sucking her thumb.

Yesterday DH had slow pot roasted a piece of beef til it was really tender, but they wouldn’t even try anything, not even the gravy, roast potatoes and veg which they used to love.
They asked for ham sandwiches and crisps which we gave them. There was some falling out from the 4yr old about the amount of crisps she had, then she even took off the ham, so only had bread and butter. There were 2 puddings, lemon cake and custard pie with custard, both declined.

DS and dil like eating here, but I’m a bit fed up with the kids. Giving up and just giving them bread and butter seems a bit extreme.

This must have been discussed on GN before, but any thoughts?