I'm so sorry this happened, theonly! I imagine you tried to set some boundaries/lay down some rules, and GD didn't like that b/c she isn't used to it. Or maybe she's just going through a phase where she's not comfortable being away from home, some kids do. Or hey, maybe she senses you "don't like" her (I totally understand why you feel that way). Regardless, I know it was disappointing, but I think you were lucky she left. Clearly, she's not a child you can deal w/, nor should you have to. At least, not right now (as some have said, she might get nicer when she's older).
"She told me i must just mind my own business and didnt have to tell me why she wanted to go."
And she didn't have to. I'm just sorry she was so rude about it.
"... my daughter was angry that i was trying to tell her about how to discipline her child."
Most parents would be, I'm afraid. It sounds as if they are catering way too much to that little girl, and, no doubt, that's a problem. But they're not going to listen to you, so please don't waste your breath/energy.
"I feel like never inviting her again. "
I don't blame you for feeling this way. And, in fact, like some others here, I wouldn't invite her on her own again for a long time. I would just see her as part of family visits or larger events. And I would try to keep even those visits short. I would enjoy seeing her, talking w/ her and hearing her strong views, etc. But I wouldn't let myself be in any situations where it was my job to manage her behavior. You don't need that aggravation.
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