A personal dilemma...or am I just being unreasonable?

But now this thread is resurrected, I for one would like to know what happened to BelindaB's allotment relationship!!

BelindaB … How are you?

For delete, read report!

I emailed them to tell them I was having problems, so they know about it.
I couldn't delete one of my own posts as a test, either on this thread or on a different one. I imagine someone wil do something tomorrow.

I too was getting the error message so copied and pasted and sent it to contactus@gransnet - perhaps somebody will see it on Monday!

I'm still getting problems reporting it. Can you succeed MawB ?

Fasdfee’s post does make for hilarious reading though doesn’t it?
Clearly written by a “bot” ???????

So did I. A servlet threw an exception! I wonder if GN is under siege from hackers again?

Tried to report but got an error message.

Message deleted by Gransnet. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

My gut reaction OP is this is " her stuff" . All is not well.

Now more than ever , we need to look after ourselves. Is there another allottment person who would help out?

Am confused now Belinda

Quote "I'd rather give it up completely than downsize, to be honest. My current allotment is my 2nd. The previous one was not only further away from home but twice the size of this one. I certainly couldn't split the current one down...which bit would I keep? The one planted with fruit, or the half that I plant veg in every spring? I'm sure it sounds ridiculous to a non-allotment holder, but it really is difficult." end quote.

When was this brought into the equation? Did your friend ask you to split them?

Sorry not really understanding.

But to be honest, at the moment, the least of your worries are your allotments. You wouldn't both be able to go tend it at same time anyway, presumably? So, say cheerio to her and carry on yourself?

Maybe she lost her phone!

Belinda why don’t you just message her via FB? I can’t see the problem.

She might be thinking that you are ignoring her......

It just said "Hi, Belinda". I have no idea how to find out the date it was posted!

I'd rather give it up completely than downsize, to be honest. My current allotment is my 2nd. The previous one was not only further away from home but twice the size of this one. I certainly couldn't split the current one down...which bit would I keep? The one planted with fruit, or the half that I plant veg in every spring? I'm sure it sounds ridiculous to a non-allotment holder, but it really is difficult.

Yes what did the Facebook message say? Do they not have dates on? Not sure, not on facebook. Did she ask how you were. Did she say she no longer wanted to help at allotment?

I would reply even if she wasn't asking you a question just say you've only just seen it. ask if she is coping with all the restrictions and if her family are keeping well. You can tell her you have tried to text her on x number and was getting worried about her but in a relieved not remonstrating kind of way.

Also bear in mind she was probably hugely busy doing last minute Christmas preps two days before? Most people are dashing about here, there and everywhere.

As she has been your allotment buddy for 4 years seems unlikely she was deliberately being rude. Best wishes

I agree with wildswan16, gather the facts before making an assumption, we can often jump to conclusions,not necessarily the correct ones.
You may then find that do have good reason to be upset, but there again you may not, check first , best wishes

Of course you should respond to the facebook message. You have no idea what happened. Just a "lovely to hear from you, I tried to phone a couple of times but couldn't reach you." And wait for her response.

Maybe something was going on in her life at the time she was not replying to you.

I would reply to the facebook message , saying you have only just seen it, and see how it goes from there.

If she had a problem with you she would not have sent the Facebook message, also she may have a problem with her phone which is why she has used Facebook.

I would respond to the message in a polite friendly way and then let the matter drop. Often we have no idea what is going on in other people’s minds and you will only get more stressed if you keep trying to figure it out.

The idea worked well for a few years so perhaps do the same again once life settles down for us all. Perhaps get two helpers to assist which would lighten the workload and allow some leeway.

In this area I believe you can rent 1/4 or 1/2 an allotment. Would it help you to downsize?

BelindaB, try one more time to make contact. You never know what may have happened in somebody's life. She may have had a bereavement, a breakdown or mental health issue, who knows?

If she's simply avoiding you, because she's had enough of the allotment, then that is rude (cowardly too).

Maybe something happened that she didn't like?

She might have changed her SIM card and have a new number or if it was voicemail some companies are only saving messages for a week or so (important messages disappeared from my voicemail and a chap from Vodafone told me this). And an email might not be read or go to junk mail.
At least she did message you even if it was on Facebook. You don't say what she said in the message.
Possibly she has changed her mind and been too nervous to tell you or something bad has happened in her life. I would not pursue it any further though you could reply to the Facebook message in case she feels the same as you.