Do women worry over adult children more than men do?

I worry in a general way but I always want to solve things. Dh worries to but in a more laid back way.

I hate the thought of them worrying about us too but they have a 'Siblings' WhatsApp group where they hide things and worries from us!

Yes me too crazyH?. I wish I didn't worry so much and could get on with my own life like people advise.
I also worry that my worrying is actually a need to control....which is worrying!?

I worry about mine all the time. I’ve given up sharing my worried with husband because I get no response. My daughter gets annoyed with me but I ll never change.

It becomes a whole different ball game when he has grown up children and so do I - second marriage. But then I worry about his childrens attitude to him, and to me, and I worry about my 3 and their problems too...

It’s difficult because when adult children share problems they are having I feel drawn in so when it’s resolved I still feel affected. I would rather step back and let them resolve things themselves

If i have nothing to worry about,i worry about that.

Idk who wrote it but quite like the quote:

“Worry is stupid. It’s like walking around with an umbrella waiting for it to rain”

My dh like a lot of men thinks more logically. So if it’s not going to rain no need to take the brolly. Whereas I would take it just in case maybe because I am more imaginative. Having said that although he doesn’t show it much he does worry about our grown up adult children but usually there’s some fact such as a dark wet night when eldest daughter is driving 50 miles to a class after working all day.

I would say that "it depends". On the man, on the AC, and on the particular circumstances.....

@pinkcakes, I too have adult sons I would love to see settled into loving relationship. One is 33 and other 25, both live at home in loft extension. They have enormous rooms with sofa, fridge, kettle etc and Sky sport and cinema in their rooms. My dh says it is my own fault for making them too comfortable. I worry about my dd who is losing her job due to Covid. She will get 8 years redundancy but there do not seem many jobs out there. My dh says if she can't get s new job and struggles to pay mortgage she will ask for help, but I worry and have sleep loss she won't ask and will scrimp on food and heating in the winter rather than ask for help. She and Dil are independent and have never asked us for anything but do accept a little help with nursery fees costs. DH days worrying is part of my DNA and if I had nothing to worry over I would find something.

It all depends upon your personality, I believe. I don't worry unduly about my family.

I've never been a worrier and I'm very thankful for that - as it takes so much energy and makes no difference, unless it drives action and change.

I'm the same as you annodomini I haven't got the worrying gene. I'm the opposite and I tend to think everything will be ok. My DH worries about things that would never occur to me and my positive attitude drives him mad. I say to him that I wouldn't like to be inside his head! He worries about our kids & grandkids all the time. I just think if there's a problem then worrying is justified, but why worry about what might happen? That's just futile as you have no control over it anyway. However I realise if you're a worrier you can't help it. It's just part of your make up. Take comfort in the fact though that nine times out of ten everything usually works out to be fine.

Most women are worriers, they worry about worrying, it they haven't got any they invent something. Not just family, donkeys, environment, health, politics and a whole lot more, some men do as well.
Men are much more focused on work or whatever activity they are involved in, men should have more concern for others but I dont think many will change.

I totally agree about 'reading between the lines'. I could see that things weren't right in my daughter's marriage a whole year before it ended. When I spoke to my husband about my fears he made it clear that he thought I was talking rubbish.

I have noticed that the tables are turning but I don't want them to worry about us.

I must be a freak. I don't worry about my two middle-aged sons. If anything, they worry about me! My mother was a champion worrier and did that get her anywhere? I may sound callous, but worrying is a completely unproductive state of mind. It was never comforting to know that my DM worried about me.

Nanniejude

When my son told us he’s moving 60 miles away I tried not to cry, his dad just said ‘well if that’s what he wants he’s an adult now’!

60 miles ??? Try 10,000.

I think on the whole women can read between the lines, and just pick up when things aren’t quite right.

Exactly this.

cornergran

We both worry about ours family. The difference is I verbalise my worrying, Mr C keeps it inside.

Same as you in our house cornergran. We both worry about our family when things go wrong but it's me that verbalises.

DH is prepared to help, if asked, but sees no point in worrying as I do enough for both of us (apparently).

I wish some of mine were 60 miles away.

In answer to the question. Yes.

When my son told us he’s moving 60 miles away I tried not to cry, his dad just said ‘well if that’s what he wants he’s an adult now’!

I worry as to why I haven’t got anything to worry about (if you see what I mean). My elder son has an opposite outlook on life - if there is a problem, review it, decide if there is anything you can do about it, if there is, do it, if not forget about it...........if only! I find as I have got older I am finding more things/people to worry about, particularly my grandchildren, all of whom have taken or are about to take various examinations, which have obviously been impacted by CV-19. However I do hope that if I live long enough to have Great- grandchildren I will be compus mentos enough to worry about them too!!

We both worry about ours family. The difference is I verbalise my worrying, Mr C keeps it inside.

I think they worry differently and about different things ...although not sure it is right to generalise as I think personality plays a big part, rather than gender

I think on the whole women can read between the lines, and just pick up when things aren’t quite right. Most men need things bang in front of them before they twig there’s an issue, at least DH does. Also little imagination, and a head in the sand mindset.