Do women worry over adult children more than men do?

Not if my dad is anything to go by

Well my DH is. I witter away but he says 'well its up to them their adults now'.

I think men 'compartmentalise' worries quite well.

I’m single so don’t know really. However I’d be inclined to think it depends on the person not the gender ?

Once a mother, always a mother in my opinion. (there are exceptions obviously)

Women are born worriers I think.

It's programmed into them from within the womb.

Well EV, I have been overprogrammed ?

And me crazyH . I think mothers worry more when their children are grown and fled the nest, and then you have GCs to worry about.

Not all mothers and fathers are the same of course, but in general, men, as has been mentioned, do seem to be able to compartmentalise more.

My DH is always very practical and offers our DD’s help when they need it.
I am definitely the worrier.
However it highlights our personalities I think. DH is a task driven person, I am the dreamer.

My OH is every bit as bad as me ,he was the one desperste to be able to travel to check up on our daughter during lockdown.He went to hers before his 85 year old mum.It has to be said they are and always have been very close and her health issues keep both of us awake at night so I dont have a problem with it

I think generally men are able to compartmentalize more than women. My husband is like Mr Puzzler, he will help if asked but otherwise does not really get overly involved in their lives. Fortunately I was not over programmed in the maternal worrying dept. I don't see the need to be part of everything they do.

That's the case in my house. I worry about my sons (both in their late 30s, neither of them in live-in relationships). The sons aren't unhappy - just the opposite- but I suppose I'd like to see them settled with someone before I die (only 60 so hopefully not for some time yet).

My husband doesn't seem to worry about anything other than what he's going to have for dinner

I think on the whole women can read between the lines, and just pick up when things aren’t quite right. Most men need things bang in front of them before they twig there’s an issue, at least DH does. Also little imagination, and a head in the sand mindset.

I think they worry differently and about different things ...although not sure it is right to generalise as I think personality plays a big part, rather than gender

We both worry about ours family. The difference is I verbalise my worrying, Mr C keeps it inside.

I worry as to why I haven’t got anything to worry about (if you see what I mean). My elder son has an opposite outlook on life - if there is a problem, review it, decide if there is anything you can do about it, if there is, do it, if not forget about it...........if only! I find as I have got older I am finding more things/people to worry about, particularly my grandchildren, all of whom have taken or are about to take various examinations, which have obviously been impacted by CV-19. However I do hope that if I live long enough to have Great- grandchildren I will be compus mentos enough to worry about them too!!

When my son told us he’s moving 60 miles away I tried not to cry, his dad just said ‘well if that’s what he wants he’s an adult now’!

In answer to the question. Yes.

DH is prepared to help, if asked, but sees no point in worrying as I do enough for both of us (apparently).

I wish some of mine were 60 miles away.

cornergran

We both worry about ours family. The difference is I verbalise my worrying, Mr C keeps it inside.

Same as you in our house cornergran. We both worry about our family when things go wrong but it's me that verbalises.

I think on the whole women can read between the lines, and just pick up when things aren’t quite right.

Exactly this.

Nanniejude

When my son told us he’s moving 60 miles away I tried not to cry, his dad just said ‘well if that’s what he wants he’s an adult now’!

60 miles ??? Try 10,000.

I must be a freak. I don't worry about my two middle-aged sons. If anything, they worry about me! My mother was a champion worrier and did that get her anywhere? I may sound callous, but worrying is a completely unproductive state of mind. It was never comforting to know that my DM worried about me.