The matter of the cushion is that my son places a lot of importance on gift giving and my appreciating his gifts, as he said, he thinks about what to buy for me. I fear that my son craves appreciation more than I have been giving him, and that is what I meant by being a good mother, giving him what he needs.
Icanhandthemback wrote:"You seem to be taking this as a personal slight when, in fact, it is a practicality issue. I am sorry you are hurt by my actions but absolutely no malice was intended. The fact I have found that I have no use for this is not because I don't like it and I think you have wonderful taste. I have just reached a time in my life where I want to go for ease rather than managing other people's expectations so please don't feel offended."
That is exactly how my life is, just as you describe, and what I tried to explain to him. His response was I should immediately have said I did not like it and he told me a polite way to say so, then his dear friend his ex wife, could have returned it, but now it was too late and she did not have a receipt.
I agreed with him on principle, I did admire the cushion when I unwrapped it and said I liked it very much. The next day I realised there was no place in my life for it. |Also that my hiding the cushion in a cupboard was an insult to his ex wife whom he loves and who had been so kind as to give me a nice present.
My son has a lot in common with two ex-wives especially, although he is also a generally friendly and popular person. I like all his wives , which is very fortunate for me!