late to bed unreasonable?

I just think whatever works for you both is fine! No hard and fast rules. The problem is if your husband feels upset if you have separate rooms? What is upsetting you the most? That he stays up until 1.30 when he could be in bed? Or that he disturbs you when he comes to bed?

Talk it through. Should be a compromise there somewhere. I wouldn't like to give up MY bed to go in the spare room so if it came to it I would ask him to do so

Actually much same, I am definitely a morning person and hubby a night owl but I don't actually hear him coming to bed so not same problem.

Have always tended to be a night owl, but now try to go up with OH.
If I am later, try to be as quiet as possible, and not disturb.
Ditto for OH who is an early riser, but we breakfast together.
So try be as quiet and considerate as possible is my advice.

Well it's not unreasonable for him to want to go to bed later.

My OH goes at around 10. 30 and I really have tried going to bed at the same time but all that happens is that I lay there until about 12.30 when I give up and go diwnstairs until about 3.00.

If I go at 12.00 I go straight to sleep and sleep undisturbed till 8.00.

He on the other hand wakes up two or three times a night.

Fortunately I don't disturb him and he doesn't disturb me if we just stick to what suits us ? I'd be sad not to have him next to me.

We have a routine. I go to bed at 9.30 to 10 depending on what kind of a day I have had with back pain. DH come along about 45 minutes later, we both read and go off to sleep at the same time. We read in the mornings drinking lemon tea which DH has made and then a have a little doze/chat/listen to Classic FM/News and get up around 8 to 8.30. Took us years to get this right but now this suits us both. Couldn't bear separate bedrooms I would keep popping in for a chat.

My husband used to do this, but age caught up with him, both go up between 10 and 11 now. I used to stir, but go back to sleep.

Separate bedrooms for us! I used to have a cough which had no time limits (its better now) but DH has taken over. We settle down at similar times, but I'm the one who can be restless, so holidays it's either twin beds or a very large double

I'm glad I'm not alone in finding it a pain!!! We have got a lovely new bed in the spare room so I'm going to make use of it, thanks Ladyleftfieldlover & MawB2

We have had separate bedrooms for years. He snores like billyo and visits the loo several times a night. We share a room on holiday but with single beds and ear plugs.

My father was just like that!
Mum used to get so cross but he never changed.
Separate bedrooms is the answer and if he doesn’t like it, he knows what to do about it!