Christmas present

Life is too short to worry about such things. We don’t even give presents now to each other.

Perhaps it is a compliment that she liked the brand that you had brought. Sounds like a lovely present to me and probably a coincidence anyway.

I wouldn't give it a second thought. My DH likes good watches and has several the same make, as do I.

I think there must be an underlying story as the OP has posted under Relationships and not Chat or Christmas.

Does she live with you? If not, perhaps she hasn’t seen him wearing the watch you bought him. Anyway, what does it matter? Don’t read too much into it.r

If she has just told you and hasn't given it to him maybe she doesn't know he already has one. Tell her, and give her the change to exchange it for a different gift

What makes you feel upset about the present of a watch, is it because it would have maybe cost her a lot of money, or the fact you might think she’s upstaging you, I don’t quite understand why you would over react, do you get on ok with your step daughter, I don’t see it as inappropriate, so I do think you are over thinking this

For your own peace of mind plus good family relations, please try to think of this as an oversight on your step-daughter's behalf rather than a snub to you.

Unless she makes a habit of deliberately buying her father the same things as you, it really is not worth bothering about.

I have at least 5 watches but none are expensive I just like a change

did she buy you something nice?

How is your relationship with your stepdaughter, OP?

If someone bought you a pair of Cartier earrings, would you be offended if someone else bought you another pair, because you already own a pair? Wouldn't you rotate them and wear them both?

Same with a watch, I'd say.

So, yes, I think you are overreacting a bit.

By the same designer ?or just identical to the one you bought H.?
I agree with those who say some men like watches, as do some women. (myself included ) also like watches.

The sentiment about the watch you bought him is no less negated by your step-daughter's gift, it just shows that she appreciates you too. Unless there is a back history of her undermining you, I suspect it is an oversight on her part and you are probably overthinking things. Just laugh and suggest he wears one on each arm! Perhaps he could keep one for best or, as they would say down here, take turns's eaches!

Personally I'd be more concerned that your DP thought it was fine to go ahead and open a parcel that was addressed to you! I've been married over 40yrs and Mr MW has never opened a parcel addressed to me, especially at this time of year!

Duplicate present from a couple of years ago, storm in a teacup. There's the potential for a lot more hurt and upset being felt by your stepdaughter if she didn't know he already had the watch she has carefully chosen for him.

A lot of feelings like this can probably be avoided by assuming the best, rather than worst, motive for the action. Your stepdaughter maybe remembered from years ago that her dad mentioned he would like a nice watch and so she went to some effort to select a nice one - either forgetting or not realising you had bought him something similar. If you just assume that's the case , be grateful she is being thoughtful towards her dad and have a wee smile that you've got similar taste. The fact she addressed the parcel to you to look after till Christmas might even be an indication that she trusts you and didn't intend it as any sort of slight. If other things have happened in the past or crop up in future which clearly indicate she is trying to undermine you in some way, then try to understand whether any insecurity may be behind it and work on developing a closer relationship if possible. Making an issue of the watch is unlikely to make anyone feel better, including yourself. I think we've all had too much time to overthink things during this strange year!

According to my DH a man can never have to many watches. Don't get it myself but there you go. If it was shoes or boots on the other hand........... ?

Sorry but as my DD would say. "Get over yourself" My SIL has lots of watches by the same designer but they are not the same face or strap. I think you are looking for a problem. Your husband opened something that was addressed to you? That would be my problem right there!

She obviously hardly sees him so probably has no idea about the watch he has. Do not get upset or mention it to her. These things happen.

Take it as a compliment that you chose a good gift.

I think perhaps you are overreacting, she probably has never noticed his watch. Obviously your husband won't want to upset her by saying he already has one the same so nor should you. Just say what good taste she's got!

What's your problem? My stepdaughter would have no idea what I bought her father any Christmas I'd be pleased she'd got him something lovely

I certainly think your overreacting, what difference does it make ? Maybe his daughter knows he likes that particular designer and thought it a safe bet to get one in different design for him . Can have many designs by same designer so it’s nice to have a choice .

It does seem a bit odd. When he showed you the watch didn’t he comment how it was the same? Didn’t you? I think when one gets an inkling that all is not transparent it is a worry. Their relationship is important and she is letting you know that and so is he so basically you have to accept it. With as much grace as you can manufacture