Sorry porn again! and more

So you thought he only had eyes for you when he was ( I won't say it but you all know what I mean) over your lingerie.
Smutty mags in your bed, page 3 in the bathroom.
And then your shocked when you find him watching porn.
Your having a laugh.

lemongrove

Callistemon

I put 'porn again as there seems many posts on this subject.
Can't say I've noticed one before now.

....and am sure you have looked really well Callistemon?

I just took a look - first time I swear - and there are indeed dozens of posts about husbands and porn.

I’m sorry about your predicament Jasmine4. Personally I wouldn’t want to remain in such a situation. If your husband continues looking up skirts he is going to end up getting caught and prosecuted.

Porn again? Are there some others? <<she said, excitedly whilst trying to appear nonchalant>>

I've just packed my summer clothes away but perhaps I should charity shop the see-through ones.

It’s a terrible warning to us all never to wear see through dresses when visiting the seaside? ( what is a see through dress btw)?

I thought it was a religious thing for a minute

Callistemon

^I put 'porn again as there seems many posts on this subject.^
Can't say I've noticed one before now.

....and am sure you have looked really well Callistemon?

Stay away - right away from this man - for good.

I put 'porn again as there seems many posts on this subject.
Can't say I've noticed one before now.

I'm surprised no-one has reported him by now.

It's my first post, just needed to vent sorry. I put 'porn again as there seems many posts on this subject.

Thank you so much for your replies really helping me to realise I'm not 'crazy' I feel like I'm grieving tbh, really weird feeling, I feel really stupid as I thought he only had eyes for me! He says it was just 'window shopping' and to lighten up! he makes me feel like I'm over reacting, maybe I am!

Is this your first post jasmine if so welcome it sounds like you did the right thing getting out

You've got two choices---go back and put up with the perversion ( he won't change ) or remain on your own with peace of mind.
I know what I'd choose !

Jasmine4, this is a huge life change for you and, on top of it all, your husband is blaming you and denying any responsibility for the problems. Of course you are down. Do you think you are grieving your marriage, the marriage you thought you had or wanted?

Just as food for thought, and take this with a grain of salt as I do not know a lot about it, is it possible that your husband could be developing dementia? I believe that loss of inhibitions and inappropriate acting out can occur in some people with dementia. Is it out of character? Have you discussed this with a medical professional?

Why porn ‘again’?in the OP title, isn’t this your first post on Gransnet?
Unbelievable behaviour isn’t it?

Thank you for reply OceanMama, I have been having private counselling but can't afford it now I've moved out, it did really help me see things clearer though. He's basically said I can 'come back when I've sorted myself out'! but nothing is going to change if I go back, confused why I'm so down at the moment, maybe because I've never been on my own before.

I'm sorry you're going through this. I couldn't accept this kind of behaviour from my husband either. Especially trying to violate women by looking up their dresses bothers me. Or watching the neighbour in her bathroom. Of course this is a confusing time for you. Do you have a friend who can support you and listen well at this time? Maybe talking to a professional would help you sort through all the feelings? He's not going to change while he thinks he hasn't got a problem.