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My husband thinks Covid is a 'plandemic' and his attitude and ways of thinking have become so against mine, not sure we can survive it.

(29 Posts)
Namsnanny Sat 09-Jan-21 13:00:38

For the moment dont look for reasons to argue.
It seems you wont get any sensible discussion with him so dont try.
He is entitled to think anything he wants, however odd it seems.
So long as he isnt putting you at risk, put your own mental health first by distracting yourself somehow.
If the relationship is over you cant do much about that for a while, so fo us on things that make you feel better!!

Iam64 Sat 09-Jan-21 12:51:39

Sorry SuzyP2, I can't think of any way to help you to see and think a bit more clearly. You seem to see it very clearly. Your husband has drawn into a crazy conspiracy theory and you haven't. Is he going out and breaching the covid guidelines, so putting you at risk physically as well as causing you to be so angry and upset.

Poppyred Sat 09-Jan-21 12:51:11

I would tell him in no uncertain terms that you disagree with him and tell him that the subject is TABOO.

Is this something new or just the last straw SuzyP2?

SuzyP2 Sat 09-Jan-21 12:45:59

We have been married nearly 30 years, we don't share the same political beliefs but we agreed a long time ago to agree to disagree.

He is however becoming more and more convinced by the Covid conspiracy theories which has caused heated arguments. He reads about it and listens to podcasts about it all the time and doesn't believe the numbers of people dying are truly Covid related

On the Thursday TV press conference, the medical officer made reference to those who think it is all a hoax and they should grow up, he also said that attitude is an insult to the nurses and medical professions.

I have heard the terms before but it just resonated with me this time and I asked my husband if he thinks the entire NHS and the army are in cahoots and are just playing along with the hoax. He had his eyes closed as if pretending to be asleep (he wasn't) and didn't answer me, the rest of the evening was spent in silence.

By the time I went to bed I was shaking with anger and just wanted to scream and cry at the thought of his denial of all the people involved in caring, helping, supporting, this list of people is endless.

Perhaps I have blown it all out of proportion and I wasn't sure whether to post this under coronavirus so forgive me if I am in the wrong place, but at the moment it feels like I cannot get over his lack of belief, care or humanitarian compassion.

I cant quite see where our relationship can go from here as I really cannot agree to disagree on this.

Can anyone please help me to see and think a bit more clearly please?