How much is too much?

Don’t worry about me ladies I have enough to buy a house which I will likely do this summer and rent it out, in the meantime I will enjoy the attention.
I did take the plunge and move in quickly, however we have known each for over 30 yrs, he lost his wife a couple of years ago, it seems she trained him well!.

Before anyone mentions it, NO there was no previous
romantic involvement

welbeck, I thought it would be about spending on a present!

I am surprised, though, that a newly divorced person would put themselves into such a 'dependent' housing situation.

Most would be very keen to set up as an equal, independent individual. Feeling 'like a teenager' doesn't sound right. Has a lesson not been learned?

Good luck to you.

Money - is it possible for you to buy a small property to rent out? Keeping your money in savings may not be a good idea as interest rates are often poor. Property ownership might be a good way of preserving the value of any savings you may have.

Thank you all so much giving me the reassurance that it does last even in later life. Good luck to all of you as well.

Be happy! The best feeling in the world. Many people don’t achieve it first time round. Good luck!

from the title, i thought it was going to be about rent.

i echo Toad, just be careful re money.

Good for you, Katie59 (and it sounds like it is!!)

I met my current DH when I was 53, in the days of Friends Reunited which is how he found me! Yes, the melting moments were part of that for us, too. When he was widowed and I felt there was no future in my first marriage, we became a permanent item and married in 2015. He lives in France and, under normal circumstances, we spend time together and apart in the UK and France.

Currently we are marooned in our respective countries but make the most of Zoom to maintain contact. We eagerly await the lifting of travel restrictions but we know it won't be soon. I'm glad to hear you are happy and buying a house to let is a good way of making your settlement sum work for you.

My mum’s cousin was widowed about ten years ago. He phoned my mum recently to gleefully tell her he’d had his CV vaccine and that he’s got a new girlfriend. He’s 95yo! . She’s a younger woman, only 78.

I’m happy for you, long may it continue too,

It sounds lovely.....but do keep your feet firmly on the ground, particularly around your money. You never know what’s round the corner. Hopefully, it’ll be more of the same?

What a lovely life affirming post! Go with it and enjoy. We all deserve to feel like this and 61 is not old. Enjoy the butterflies in stomach feeling :-)

It's our tenth wedding anniversary this year and we're still like newly weds. Enjoy it. It's love.

Also to give yourself some security if things don't work out long term Katie.

I wasn’t expecting any attention, I guess because I hadn’t had so much as a cuddle for 10 yrs so I was pretty low and resigned to companionship at best. I really did think I was too old to respond to a man, it’s nice to hear that others have had such good fortune.

It is heady and romantic which is lovely, marriage is not on the cards but I am financially secure, a good NHS pension and the cost of a house from the divorce. I’m thinking of buying a house and renting it out, to at least get some income from the cash, if I don’t need it my sons can benefit in the future.

Enjoy !!!

I think this might be what is known as ‘bragplaining’! But hey, who cares? Enjoy your fun.

I also had this 13 or 14 years ago. At the the it was heady and all consuming but I don't want it again, because it WAS all consuming.

It happens, how wonderful, don’t question it, just enjoy!

Just go with the flow! Pleased for you to have found love and that you love it too!

Just enjoy it Katie.

Love and the other stuff can come at any age - enjoy!!!

Just enjoy it. The same thing happened to me over 10 years ago. Dont over analyse or overthink. I think its lovely.

Be happy Katie59 you are a lucky woman

Make the most of it. You have a second chance, it sounds wonderful.

I met my partner almost 9 years ago. I was 58, he was 61. Have never been happier.