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How much is too much?

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Katie59 Fri 22-Jan-21 08:41:37

Hello I’m new to all this so please be kind.
After 35 yrs of marriage and 4 children it all went stale and I was being treated like a doormat so I made the break.
Divorce behind me, I unexpectedly met a new man and because I hadn’t settled on a new house I move in with him, this was a year ago, I still feel like a teenager, when we cuddle I just melt - every time.

Has anyone else been in this situation, at my age it was not expected and rather disconcerting.

Oopsadaisy1 Fri 22-Jan-21 08:42:44

You’re in lust!

Good luck and be happy 💐

FannyCornforth Fri 22-Jan-21 08:45:03

What on earth is your problem Katie? smile

NotAGran55 Fri 22-Jan-21 08:56:51

How lovely 😊 Long may it continue.

Katie59 Fri 22-Jan-21 09:00:16

Oopsadaisy1

You’re in lust!

Good luck and be happy 💐

That’s one reply I didn’t expect, I’m 61 and a cuddly size 14!

NannyJan53 Fri 22-Jan-21 09:04:05

Make the most of it. You have a second chance, it sounds wonderful. flowers

I met my partner almost 9 years ago. I was 58, he was 61. Have never been happier.

sodapop Fri 22-Jan-21 09:06:33

Be happy Katie59 you are a lucky woman smile

rafichagran Fri 22-Jan-21 09:23:23

Just enjoy it. The same thing happened to me over 10 years ago. Dont over analyse or overthink. I think its lovely.

BigBertha1 Fri 22-Jan-21 09:30:42

Love and the other stuff can come at any age - enjoy!!!

Smileless2012 Fri 22-Jan-21 09:50:42

Just enjoy it Katiesmile.

Froglady Fri 22-Jan-21 09:53:07

Just go with the flow! Pleased for you to have found love and that you love it too!

Jaxjacky Fri 22-Jan-21 09:53:11

It happens, how wonderful, don’t question it, just enjoy!

GagaJo Fri 22-Jan-21 09:58:14

I also had this 13 or 14 years ago. At the the it was heady and all consuming but I don't want it again, because it WAS all consuming.

geekesse Fri 22-Jan-21 10:43:59

I think this might be what is known as ‘bragplaining’! But hey, who cares? Enjoy your fun.

crazyH Fri 22-Jan-21 10:46:56

Enjoy !!!

Katie59 Fri 22-Jan-21 10:55:12

I wasn’t expecting any attention, I guess because I hadn’t had so much as a cuddle for 10 yrs so I was pretty low and resigned to companionship at best. I really did think I was too old to respond to a man, it’s nice to hear that others have had such good fortune.

It is heady and romantic which is lovely, marriage is not on the cards but I am financially secure, a good NHS pension and the cost of a house from the divorce. I’m thinking of buying a house and renting it out, to at least get some income from the cash, if I don’t need it my sons can benefit in the future.

GagaJo Fri 22-Jan-21 11:46:14

Also to give yourself some security if things don't work out long term Katie.

vampirequeen Sat 23-Jan-21 11:21:20

It's our tenth wedding anniversary this year and we're still like newly weds. Enjoy it. It's love.

Babs758 Sat 23-Jan-21 11:26:55

What a lovely life affirming post! Go with it and enjoy. We all deserve to feel like this and 61 is not old. Enjoy the butterflies in stomach feeling :-)

Toadinthehole Sat 23-Jan-21 11:42:07

It sounds lovely.....but do keep your feet firmly on the ground, particularly around your money. You never know what’s round the corner. Hopefully, it’ll be more of the same🥳

TrendyNannie6 Sat 23-Jan-21 20:36:56

I’m happy for you, long may it continue too,

SueDonim Sat 23-Jan-21 21:51:27

My mum’s cousin was widowed about ten years ago. He phoned my mum recently to gleefully tell her he’d had his CV vaccine and that he’s got a new girlfriend. He’s 95yo! grin. She’s a younger woman, only 78.

Ashcombe Sat 23-Jan-21 22:05:40

Good for you, Katie59 (and it sounds like it is!!)

I met my current DH when I was 53, in the days of Friends Reunited which is how he found me! Yes, the melting moments were part of that for us, too. When he was widowed and I felt there was no future in my first marriage, we became a permanent item and married in 2015. He lives in France and, under normal circumstances, we spend time together and apart in the UK and France.

Currently we are marooned in our respective countries but make the most of Zoom to maintain contact. We eagerly await the lifting of travel restrictions but we know it won't be soon. I'm glad to hear you are happy and buying a house to let is a good way of making your settlement sum work for you.

welbeck Sat 23-Jan-21 22:16:06

i echo Toad, just be careful re money.

welbeck Sat 23-Jan-21 22:17:32

from the title, i thought it was going to be about rent.