Birthday cards

Perhaps she thinks your OH is childish? Just a guess.

Or just that it was the only one to hand at home and thought it’ll do. Ignore it is my advice. Why fan the flames?

I would send them the most childish card I could find in return on their birthday.

As Urmstongran said, maybe it was the only one to hand, they probably haven’t been shopping for cards lately, and lots of shops not open.

At least they sent one.

Not worth falling out about.

It is very difficult to get suitable cards these days with the shops being closed. I have just sent my friend of 47 years standing a most unsuitable card because she likes to receive one with "Friend" on and the only one I could find was more suitable for a teenager. I did not give it a thought that she would mind.

I agree with Greenfinch. All the card shops where I live are closed. I have two birthdays coming up to get cards for. I will have to use my local sub post office and they don't have a great choice. I don't think it's worth falling out over.

I'm sure that the card was at the bottom of your sister-in-law's "card box".
You should see some of the cards I've sent these past months..!!
The card shops are closed, I'm not going in any shops that are open. (Have bought a few through Ocado, not ideal).
It's the thought that counts, the fact that they have remembered your OH on their special day.

Just smile & accept it.

Maybe they viewed it as cute and friendly, rather than childish.
Once I trusted DH to buy a card for a family teenager. The card he came back with had a picture of intertwined zoo animals. What he’d failed to see was that they were in the shape of the number 2. Fortunately I intercepted it.

OP, sorry, no advice - but had to stop by to say that you've got exactly the same name as my cat! ? (Beautiful name btw)

Thortful do great cards online.

I've bought a range of cards from the BHF website recently. A choice of designs plus little gifts like wild flower seeds that could go inside cards. Most charities have websites offering this service.

giftshop.bhf.org.uk/cards

All the supermarkets sell cards and so do newsagents they are all open. You can buy cards on line so it’s not difficult to buy cards.

True Redhead but some people are shielding, don’t shop on line and have relatives doing their shopping for them - in which case a card probably isn’t on a list.

I’m probably making excuses here ...
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Weelll they possibly were being sarky. Ignore it. Reacting is just feeding the bad vibes. Let them stew. Smile lots. It’s a great way to annoy people who thought they could upset you. X

Thanks Polarbear2, great advice - I think ignoring is best policy. There’s been some underlying tension there for a while.

I read somewhere that showing no emotion when someone tries to offend you is the best way to go.

Oh definitely! There’s no defence to a smile. I worked with a very nasty lady. I began a smile offensive. She hated it ?. Made me laugh lots. Don’t feed the negative. ?

I would just ignore it completely, beyond 'Thank you for your card' if you do that sort of thing.

If it was a genuine error, least said soonest mended. If it was deliberate, there is nothing more disappointing for the sender than no reaction.

I have been sending "not that great" cards during lockdown, due to shielding as much as possible. My friends and family understand, it's the thought that counts.

Perhaps in these strange times, just give them the benefit of doubt and don't make a fuss. If it WAS deliberate, the lack of reaction from you will peeve them anyway. Win win!

They have sent a card wishing your husband Happy Birthday. If there is a hidden message just ignore it and thank them for the card if you are in touch.