How many times have you been in love?

Twice. First was my first boyfriend of 7 years but he played away and once I found out I ended it. Broke my heart.

First husband. Eventually i realised I was trying to love him and tried so for 24 years. I should have listened to my inner self just before the wedding.

Two years later at 48 I met the love of my life and we married 7 years later. Together 24 years and married 17 happy years.

Fell not feel!

Once, fell for a boyfriend really bad. I was a fair bit younger than him though and very naive and quiet, not much experience. We split up just before he went on a lads holiday to Spain. Much later we met again and I broke off my engagement to another for him but parents were not happy.
Became re-engaged then married. Needless to say, marriage didn’t work out because it was on the rebound. Took me years to get over the man I feel in love with.

Still loving is not the same as being still madly in love,
that first fine careless rapture of love, like the first agonies of grief they cannot last forever. What remains is a full and feeling emotion. Living always on cloud 9 would be too exhausting.

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JackyB your port really resonated with me.

How I envy those of you who are still madly in love with the one you married decades ago.

Lust loads of times, love is something different. It takes time to grow and shows itself in unexpected ways. So for me, just the once to my present DH. He does drive me mad at times, we are complete opposites, the sex was never fantastic even in the early days but we really care for each other and I trust him completely. He can be a bit mean about the things that really don't matter but has complete generosity about the things that do and he is so kind.

Twice. Second time to DH. We have been happily married for over 50 years.

A few years ago I heard that No 1 had died and I read his obituary. Until the end of his life he remained the person I had first fallen in love with. Like me he clearly had a happy marriage.

Ah that’s lovely

I have been in love twice. Once with a slightly older man who I met when I was 20.I went out with him for over 16 years. He never wanted marriage or children & he went out with other women when I knew him. Marriage would not have worked between us. Second, to the man I married although our relationship now is more like a brother & sister one.

Twice. First one sent me a very unexpected Dear John. So painful. Seven years later someone managed to break into the coat of armour I had built around myself and we had thirty very happy years together. Such is life (and death).

Twice, married second but he died after 8 years of marriage, 1976, engraved on his head stone ‘I shall not look upon his like
again’, I was right

Polarbear2

Not sure I ever have. Not if it’s ‘as advertised’ ?. I feel contentment and affection but can’t say I’ve ever been in love. I’m not sure I’ve ever been ‘loved’ in the romantic way either. Perhaps that’s why.

Thank you for this...I've often felt the same and wondered if I was odd or perhaps undeserving of that kind of love!

I've cared deeply for partners but never that 'rush".

Three or four times. The last time for almost 57 years, and counting!

I thought I was in love several times until I met my husband in 1964, then I knew what it really was to be in love and to be loved. Thankfully we both still feel the same.

Just once since July 1968.
Thankfully still together.

My first love. We were both in the Forces & circumstances drove us apart. I've had loves since but nothing to compare how I felt about him. It was mutual. I loved him then, I love him now. I'll always love him.

I was engaged at 21, then engaged again (and married this time) at 25. Divorced at 38 and then in a long-term relationship for 20 years. Looking back I can see I wasn't in love with any of them, but I did find the love of my life when I was 60 and we've now been together for 15 years.

I think there are plenty of examples of people who have been married for life and not regretted it.

I am reminded of the joke about a 50th Wedding celebration and someone asked the husband. '50 years married and did you really never once ever contemplate divorce?' To which the husband replied 'Murder frequently, but never divorce.'

That is the secret of a long happy marriage, adaptability.

Just once, met at 16yr married at 20yrs and still together 49yrs later.We have little in common only the happiness of our children and DGC , bicker most days, complete opposites but I love him more and more as years go by.No great romantic gestures but strong morals,caring and trustworthy.

three times for me, was 13 and boyfriend was 17, together for 4 years, 1st husband we both married to get away from home, realised we were better as friends with benefits, met my late husband while i still was with first, helped him out by taking some food to him, sat talking all night and moved in the next day, it was a different kind of love from the others...soul mates, we knew what each other was thinking, he was 18 years older than me, we married and had 18 years together until he died at 57, i have been on my own since i was 39...now 58.

Soulmates

Could be quite different from a lover, a partner, a husband.
A soulmate could be a platonic friend.

There are different kinds of love between men and women And I think the best is the kind that grows slowly in marriage.
www.youtube.com/watch?v=h_y9F5St4j0

not sure if enduring happiness is possible with one person
In my case it is. 40 years together I still adore him. Nobody comes near him for making me happy, contented, loved.