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How many times have you been in love?

(92 Posts)
GagaJo Sat 20-Mar-21 21:28:51

Just that really. Are you a one and done girl, or a love the one you're with lady?

Marydoll Sat 20-Mar-21 21:59:37

Once and I'm still with him, forty six years later! 😍

Charleygirl5 Sat 20-Mar-21 22:07:31

Three times. I remember around 50 years+ago walking home from Kings Cross station with tears streaming down my face because my boyfriend was returning to his home city where he was starting another job as a junior doctor. In those days it was too far away to realistically see each other. I was heart broken!

GagaJo Sat 20-Mar-21 22:52:51

Three times for me as well. One was virtually love at first sight. I met him briefly and then no contact for a couple of months, at least. But I remember talking to a friend about him. There was just... something. But he was a sh*t. After we had been together for about a year, I found out he had been two timing me.

I hope I am done with all that. I just don't have the energy anymore!

Cherrytree59 Sat 20-Mar-21 22:53:17

40 years 10th October 2021

2020convert Sat 20-Mar-21 22:58:34

Once. Unfortunately, for me, he had an affair 43 years in! Don’t love him now and don’t want any replacement

avitorl Sat 20-Mar-21 23:37:10

I don't think I have ever really been in love despite being married twice. If I'm being completely honest I think I have loved my animals more than any man I've been involved with.
I've stopped expecting it to happen so just get on with my life as it is.

Grandma11 Sun 21-Mar-21 00:02:10

Three times for me too, my First love died young in a Road Accident, we were teenage sweethearts, and the memories are still special even today. The second one I married, but I can see now that it was for the wrong reasons, and he was very difficult to live with. I still speak to him today as we have Children together, but he's recently gone through his 3rd Divorce.
Then when I least expected it, I.met DH 2, Wow! What a whirlwind that was! We met at a Halloween party, started Dating the following week, got engaged on Christmas Eve, and Married 14 months later!
We have now been together for 34 years, have two daughters and 5 Grandchildren together, and he really is the Love of my Life!

Juliet27 Sun 21-Mar-21 00:11:57

avitorl snap!

Polarbear2 Sun 21-Mar-21 09:04:04

Not sure I ever have. Not if it’s ‘as advertised’ 🥴. I feel contentment and affection but can’t say I’ve ever been in love. I’m not sure I’ve ever been ‘loved’ in the romantic way either. Perhaps that’s why.

Gingster Sun 21-Mar-21 09:10:22

Just once and it’s our golden wedding anniversary this summer. We have absolutely nothing in common and we drive each other crazy, but still have a lot of love together. We were 16 when we met and I never looked at another man and he never looked at another woman.

vampirequeen Sun 21-Mar-21 09:12:07

Once from the moment I met DH. I thought I was in love with the ex at the beginning but now I realise I wasn't. I cried on my wedding night when I realised I'd made a horrible mistake.

glammanana Sun 21-Mar-21 09:15:51

Once and we where married 45yrs and had three amazing children sadly I lost him 15 mths ago,there is no one who can replace him in any way.

Shinamae Sun 21-Mar-21 09:21:51


I don't think I have ever really been in love despite being married twice. If I'm being completely honest I think I have loved my animals more than any man I've been involved with.
I've stopped expecting it to happen so just get on with my life as it is.

I could have written this!!!

Jaxjacky Sun 21-Mar-21 09:24:14

Twice, first is now ex husband, father of my two children who he cut contact with when they were young. Second my now husband, 22 very happy years, I’m fortunate, although the first ended badly, there were happy times, but this relationship is spectacular and deeper.

TerriBull Sun 21-Mar-21 09:35:33

Three times, first boyfriend, first husband and second husband, 36 happy years.

So sorry glammanana flowers I agree that sort of love can rarely be replicated

Redhead56 Sun 21-Mar-21 09:51:44

I thought I was in love in my previous marriage but I know I wasn’t. I was naive and wanted to get married like my sisters did. On my wedding day I had serious doubts but was stubborn and went through with it. We had some nice times but it takes two to work at a marriage he lived a double life. When you dread someone coming home from work that is not love.
I was busy raising my children going back to college and getting a divorce and on my own. I knew my present husband just as a friend and had not seen him for years. When we met up there was instant attraction I had never experienced before. It was like a magnet we could not see enough of each other. My DC loved him too it’s twenty five years marriage this year.

Lillie Sun 21-Mar-21 09:57:55

3 times. At school in 6th form, then at college, then husband of 40 years.

BigBertha1 Sun 21-Mar-21 10:10:55


kircubbin2000 Sun 21-Mar-21 10:13:32

Never, I've fallen into relationships and not known how to get out of them.

Conan Sun 21-Mar-21 10:24:25

Similar to you glammanana, once, married 39 years, three great children, sadly only two living, 7 beautiful grandchildren, but lost him to cancer 9 years ago. Totally unreplaceable.

Polarbear2 Sun 21-Mar-21 10:31:22


Never, I've fallen into relationships and not known how to get out of them.

Ooh me too!!

Peasblossom Sun 21-Mar-21 10:33:36

Loads. I was in love with all of them, until I wasn’t.

How many have I actually loved? One probably. You don’t know if it’s real love till it’s put to the test.

“Love isn’t something wonderful that you feel, it’s something difficult that you do.”

Calendargirl Sun 21-Mar-21 10:40:59

I thought I was in love with my first real boyfriend, we went out for over a year, had met at school. When he went to Scotland in his first job, we vowed to stay together, write, (this was 1969!), and meet up when he could come home, in the meantime saving to get married, I had also started my first job.

This lasted a few weeks, I envied my friends going out to discos etc, and realised I didn’t want to be tied down, I was only just 17.

When he came home at Christmas, I finished with him. He was heartbroken, I felt awful but knew I was doing the right thing.

The next summer, I met my future husband. Knew then it hadn’t been love with the first.

Been married now nearly 49 happy years.

Sometimes wonder about Number 1, hope he ended up happy too.

timetogo2016 Sun 21-Mar-21 10:43:44

I think i loved my first husband,bit i was young,i wasn`t in love with him.
I was in love with my now dh,sadly it`s wained a little ,for me anyway.
I`m very happy and that makes a difference.