How many times have you been in love?

I read somewhere many years ago that you have 3 loves, young fun love, serious responsible family fun love and getting old together love. And if you are very fortunate it’s the same person for all three.
I always thought I was in love with my boyfriends but made 2 seriously wrong marriage choices for a lot of different reasons but I am definitely third time lucky, together from age 48 And still going strong 16 years later.

Ohmother

Can someone be married but in love with another? Asking for a friend.

Apparently you can, says my friend.

Once, I married him and was very happy till he unfortunately died 32 years later.

4 times, 1st boyfriend age 13 to 17, we would have married but i refused to live with his mother, 1st husband but after 2 years we wanted different things, my second husband was my soul mate and left widowed at 39 after 18 happy years and my last partner together for 18 years and he died in may this year, i know it is early days but i think i will stay on my own, not into the dating and everything, just lucky i like being on my own,,lol

Once only; once ever.

Lust is extraordinarily powerful and sometimes confused with love.

Been there, done that.

'Romance is tempestuous, Love is calm.' Said someone called Mason Cooley. No, me neither. Strikes a chord, though.

Every time we have a new baby or kitten in the family!

Met my dh in 1957 when I was 16. Loved him straight away as only teenagers can and continued loving him. Had ups and downs but love him more now than ever.

Twice, although the first was probably more of an obsession. The second is my husband of 37 years, everything a man and husband should be but I still think, occasionally, of the first chap.

Twice. The first was unrequited, and I was heart broken. The second I married and was gloriously happy u til he had an affair and it all went wrong. B****

Twice and I believe I married the wrong one.

If I'm completely honest, once.
Adored him and him me. Together 40 years. He died in Nov 2020. We were still in love.

Twice.
I am now married (for the second time) to one of them.
My first marriage was not one of them although I tried very hard to make it so.

I saw the thread title in the Active list and looked to the right and saw the number 78.

That made me laugh.

But it was the number of replies, not the answer to the question!

Twice and I married them both

Just once really. I fell totally in love when I was 53.

Once but as we have been separated almost a year, not sure I like him atm and question if I really did love him deep down

I did fall in love twice, married the second and was desperate when marriage failed, however it wasn't until a few years later that I met the love of my life, we both felt the same from that first meeting, he was my sole mate. There could never be anyone else for me now as it would be second best, I realised that what I felt before was as nothing compared to real love. Perhaps its better not to love too much, to have companionship, because it gets lonely, but somehow you can't compromise and settle for second best. He would not have wanted me to stay on my own, he told he that because he worried how I would cope, but I know no one else would ever put me first as he did and that I could trust as I did him.

Can someone be married but in love with another? Asking for a friend.

Just once when at school. More off than on for a few years then realised it was right for each of us. Got married 7 years after we first met and still together 50 years in a few years time.
I couldn't imagine being with anyone else just wouldn't have it in me to adjust to someone else.

Just once

Divorced,died,loved,cried.

M0nica

Still loving is not the same as being still madly in love,
that first fine careless rapture of love, like the first agonies of grief they cannot last forever. What remains is a full and feeling emotion. Living always on cloud 9 would be too exhausting.

It certainly would...especially in our 70’s.

Is this question about inside or outside marriage??

Jackyb I know where you’re coming from with your first paragraph. Saying that my DH is a good man who would do anything for me but on hindsight it was a rebound relationship.
I’d say twice for me and both left me heartbroken. The first one I would call the love of my life. I think of him often and if he came back into my life again well who knows. I hear of couples reuniting in later life and wonder what if?
The second person was a cheeky charmer but again it wasn’t to be. At least with this one I got over it and a few months later met DH.