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GrandmaKT Sat 10-Apr-21 23:51:52

Could it have something to do with lockdown? Maybe she is shielding, but needed to go out to get essentials and wasn't chatting with anyone?

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crazyH Sat 10-Apr-21 23:48:50

Oh GrannyLiz, that’s so awful. You say she was ok at the group dinner ? So something happened, either during or after that. If I were you, I would certainly like to know the reason. Does this group meet regularly? I am presuming this happened some time ago, because we are in lockdown now. Yes, if you live near her, I don’t see any reason why you shouldn’t knock her door and ask her the reason. Good luck. I do feel for you ...

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Bluebellwould Sat 10-Apr-21 23:41:06

Oh gosh don’t go to her house. I think you would come across as needy. Perhaps she doesn’t remember you and so has no idea that she is cutting you. Also if you are new it takes a while to get to know someone and perhaps there is a feeling that you might not stay in the group. Give it time and be patient.

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Hithere Sat 10-Apr-21 23:38:47

Is there anything that may have caused it?

I would certainly not go to her home and ask why.

She doesnt want to have a friendship with you.
If you happen to be on the same room, just avoid her.
I bet there are many other people who appreciate your company, why waste time in something that is out of your control?

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GrannyLiz1946 Sat 10-Apr-21 23:29:05

I haven’t posted for a long time but I have seen that this is a forum in which people are kind!
What would you do if someone you met at a group dinner , part of a club we joined late last year, made it clear that she was cutting you? I sat next to her at the dinner as she is the organiser and I was new. We chatted and although I was a bit nervous I thought it went well. But I have seen her and greeted her on 3 or 4 occasions since and she has basically cut me. So I’m upset!
Is it better to ignore this behaviour or to get her on her own and ask her what it was I did that annoyed her? I am going to bump into her a lot and I’m anxious to clear the air.
I was thinking of going to her house and asking her. Otherwise I’m unlikely to see her alone.
What is the best thing to do in your opinion?

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