Birthday gifts. When to stop?

What has a person's monetary situation got to do with whether you give them presents or not?

DS will be 50 this year, his present is already stashed away in a wardrobe. Christmas or birthdays we always ask DC what they would like, it may be a book, a meal out, or a visit somewhere. Sometimes we give them the item and at other times we send them a cheque for them to get it themselves.

Why not talk to your DC about this? They may be untroubled if they do not receive them, or possibly these gifts could be deeply significant and important to them for what it represents rather than its actual monetary value.

I have really spoilt my DS and DD and their partners this year more than ever. I usually give them £50 so they can buy what they want I buy a little gift too. They are in their thirties and I love them so as long as I can I will I spoil the GC too. It depends on your circumstances doesn’t really I am comfortable now so I like to share it.

We still give money to our ACs and their partners for Christmas and birthdays.

I was always very grateful to my in laws for the money that they gave us on those occasions as our finances were really tight at times.

Now my DMiL still gives me money for my birthday, I tell her it is my theatre fund, I go with my theatre buddy as DH has no interest. Money for Christmas is always joint between DH and I so birthday money just for me always seems special!

I still give my 2 son`s money/gifts for Birthdays and Christmas
as i do with dil`s and g/children,and will do so until i die.

If you can afford it carry on giving but if not scale it down or stop it with an explanation.

I give to my adult children at Christmas and birthdays. I rarely give money but give a mixture of vouchers, useful and silly gifts. Why wouldn't I? They are still my children and I can afford it. I don't give money as they both earn well. Is it the gift aspect or the money part you are having difficulty with?

I agree with annsixty if you can comfortably afford it carry on, if not talk to them about it.

I give my three children and grownup grandchildren £100 each on their birthdays, unless they request anything specific.

Still buy presents for my children, both early 30’s but never money, I see no reason to stop, they still buy me presents too.

I always give to my sister, nephews and nieces and their children. There was a time when money was very, very tight and they still got a present but it hadn't cost very much and they were aware of my situation. When things improved then the cost of the presents increased as well as I could afford it then.
I try and increase the value every few years.
I can't see a time when I will stop giving them presents as it gives me great pleasure to buy things for them.

I always give cash to my C for their birthdays. I find it convenient as I'm totally out of touch with their individual tastes in all arenas. However, if I see or think of some item I'd particularly like them to have, I throw that in for good measure. Makes me happy and hopefully them too.

We give money to our kids at Christmas and birthday. They are grateful as some of them haven't much money. I wouldn't ever want to stop, while we can afford it

My two children are in their 40's. I still give them money for Birthdays, but only give to the grandchildren at Christmas.

We have always given our AC and their partners money on birthdays and Christmas

I gave up giving presents to my extended family when they started work - siblings and my own children only.

I am generous with my S and D at both Christmas and Birthdays, they really can use the money but at my age I see it as forwarding a little of what hopefully they will get when I die.

I get the impression it’s not the affording, it’s more it seems rather irrelevant as they get older.
I always give my adult children money, they don’t need it and I imagine it just gets spent on nothing specific, but I would feel bad not giving them anything.

If you are crafty maybe replace with something homemade? Otherwise just say. They are old enough to understand. It might be good to know in advance if they usually include your gifts in their budget to be forewarned.

If you can afford it I would carry on.
If you can’t ,just tell them that it is straining your resources and I am sure they will understand.
A box of chocs or a bottle of wine would be a nice gesture.

Talk to them about it!

We always buy our children and their partners a birthday gift- it's a celebration after all.

We only buy for children at Christmas.