Advice please

Why not ring her instead of texting, explaining that you weren’t aware she would have liked to be invited (although surely you would have welcomed her if she had turned up with your son?). Even so, she might then realise how awful you feel. Did your son know his sister was coming? How do they get on/do they see each other/keep in touch? All families have different dynamics and what one family feels is “normal” would be totally abhorrent to another family. At the end of the day, don’t fret over it. It was a mistake after all.

I would pick up the phone, explain, own it an apologise for the oversight. We all make mistakes so hopefully she will be forgiving when she knows it wasn't personal.

I could have been in exactly the same position, as my son, on the rare occasions he visits me, comes alone, as his wife is busy, either with her friends or family or at work. If she had wanted to come they could have said, or just turned up surely?
I hope an apology is accepted and that this does not cause a major incident.

Your son should take a little responsibility for this for not just asking you if she could come too. Otherwise I’m with CafeAuLait on this.

Apologise. Quickly, in person, and genuinely. Send her flowers. She’ll be very upset I’d imagine. Lots of us are a bit fragile after the year we’ve had so extra care needed. It wasn’t anyone’s fault. We’re all out of practice with these things. Good luck x

Thank you everyone your replies are much appreciated. I will call her.

I’m in a quandary .... my husband and I have not had sex for several years, I have not pushed it as he says he’s worried about his prostate/ libido etc. Recently he tells me if I lost weight I would be more attractive to him. I’m shocked at this as I’m not fat, not stick insect thin either. Am I right to be hurt by this?
He’s not what he was either but I still love him... well I thought I did!
Confused and hurt

Why are you posting the same thread under two names?

Ring her up immediately and apologise; make it clear you were under the impression she visited her mother whilst your son visited you but of course you love to see them together.

Hi im divorced and in my 50s now. My ex and I have 3 children together when we divorced he promised nothing would change. My Eldest daughter when she was 16 and my other daughter were in a singing class and put on a show with others my ex arrived late and during interval I left my eldest with her dad while myself Son and other daughter as well as all the others went for refreshments. I still unsure what happened but she came out to all of us crying. Since then my ex hasn't spoken to my eldest daughter or kept in touch at birthdays etc she is now in her 30s and it hurts me a lot that the other 2 have always seen their dad and they have had trips away presents etc they think he is wonderful. My daughter has to hear them talk about him and see what he buys them and sees the pics etc on social media. They thinks its her fault, I don't and feel that he is an awful dad. Both my girls have got married and when it was the younger daughter he didn't talk to me or my eldest we sat on different sides of the room. Her husband thinks he is great but I can't understand why he doesn't want any thing to fo with her it breaks my heart. When eldest daughter got married he wasn't invited and it was a great wedding she now has a lovely husband and a baby due next month does anyone else go through this sort of thing and how do they handle it. He was lovely before I married him and day we got married he changed he always made things an argument and he smashed my head on a stair rail and drove off so I know what he is like how do I ever get her brother and sister to understand how awful it is for my eldest and me when the think he is marvellous and we are in the wrong. I hate the fact all this has affected her she has had cbt counselling and she really can't understand why he treats her differently. He said to me years ago I wasn't fit to walk the earth and should be 6 ft under. My eldest has worked really hard she had 2 graduations her 18th, 21st bday she works in a well paid job I think she is amazing. I treat all my kids equally the same why oh why does he have to be this way any ideas please as this is getting worse for her and myself

I don't understand why your son wouldn't just assume his partner can come too. He should have said to you. I would just ring and apologise, and say you assumed she was busy as your son didn't mention she would be coming.

Is anyone else reading random posts on threads that are not related to the topic? There are 3 posts on this thread that I've seen on other threads. Or have I lost the plot?

Maybe the title of 'Advice please' makes people think they can all ask for advice on this thread.

FarNorth

Maybe the title of 'Advice please' makes people think they can all ask for advice on this thread.

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Yes that makes sense!
Sorry ladies i am not laughing at the content of anybody's posts it's the way likeminded gransnetters have posted on the same thread.