Moving in together

It's pressure from the start stay as you are.

Will everything you do for or give to your daughter have to be run by your partner first?

As she has two children (and you one?) does this mean that your daughter should get twice as much as hers, or half as much as she spends on them? I hope you can see that either way is nonsensical.

An equal partnership means financial swings and roundabouts, with both partners contributing what they can when they can, and neither taking advantage of the other. I don't think that your daughter staying put for a while is taking advantage, and TBH, I'm a bit worried that you are moving in with your girlfriend in the circumstances. Do you have any protection if things go wrong? If you are living in her house you might find that she holds all the cards.

If you put your money into half your partners house what happens if the two year relationship finishes …. Burnt all your bridges comes to mind
Stay where you are if after your daughter leaves you are still in love then that s the time to move and sell your house

I can't see that you letting your daughter stay til she's finished her course then selling the house is unfair to your partner's children. It's your house, not a shared house. I feel very uneasy about this. Your compromise seems fine. If your partner isn't keen, then I would be rethinking my relationship and definitely not rushing to move with them. Two years are nothing

The way you treat your daughter is entirely up to you.
If I were you I'd retain my independence and stay where you are.

Stay where you are…. red flags are flying
Your question should be “am I walking into trouble not am i being unfair”

I want to move to hers and pay my own way.
But she is adamant that this would be disproportioned to her two daughters.
Her older daughter gets her accommodition paid for by both her parents.
So am I being unfair?
paidd for

It's not something I'd be leaping into without legal advice.

your partner of only two year? Stay where you are and look after your daughter who've you've 'known' for longer than two years. She will be moving on in a couple of years no doubt....

If she feels her daughters are not being treated the same...as yours do you mean?....already there is a grievance before you’ve started anything. Even more reason to be careful. Get advice.

Agree with discodancer

This game of playing fair is fishy

Fair is not equal.

So she feels that her daughters are treated unequally.
I can't afford to buy In to her house until I sell my own.
And i can't sell my own until my daughter finishes college.
Am I being disproportionally unfair to her two daughters.
My daughter doesn't pay anything to me
So she gets it easy I admit that.

Before you do anything which involves money with someone you’re not married to, please get advice. Citizens Advice/ solicitor.
Hope it all goes well for you.