Grandaughter/Daughte r relationship

Yes, your daughter will be upset when she finds out but even more upset when she finds out that you knew.

Yes calendar girl. You’re right. Her mum and dad separated and DD had another relationship which resulted in twin boys. GD was only 4 and I think she felt pushed out. Her dad has always been her rock , so at the age of 11 pleaded with her dad to let her live with him. He has no other and has dedicated himself to her. She’s now at Uni doing a Mental Health Nursing Degree. We are all very proud of her, including her mum. .
It’s sad that she doesn’t seem to have any feelings for her mum , although she loves her twin brothers who she sees now and again.

You don’t say why she lived with her dad instead of her mum.
So obviously a lot of past history there, not our business, but maybe why they don’t hit it off now.

Please do not day anything to your DD

you're right. don't interfere. i think Septima is totally off beam on this one. it never works well to try to guilt someone into something esp where emotions/family relationships are concerned.
it;s good your GD called you, and it's good that she has warm relationships with other female figures, who may act as role models.
all the best.

Thanks for your thoughts.
I agree oopsadaisy 7 years is a long time to be separated from your mum. They don’t have a ‘normal’ mother/daughter relationship any more.
I will keep out of it I think and wait to see what happens. Thanks you again for your time and thoughts ??

I wouldn’t mention anything about your DD, get your daughter to write her daughter a letter, telling her how much she cares, but 7 years away from her mother in her teenage years is a long time to get back with her Mum , maybe when she is older, she will reevaluate her relationship.
But stay out of it, if you upset your Granddaughter then you won’t see or hear from her either.

I don't know, I think I might say something to the GD. It would have to be an appropriate moment, though, and something along the lines of 'I know you don't always see eye to eye with your mum but she does love you and can be hurt just like anyone else. I'd appreciate it if you could be kind to her, if not close' (said very gently and without implied criticism if possible).

I agree with lemsip try not to get involved Gingster support them both as much as you can.

Stay out of it is my advice or your GD will shut you out and that will hurt you so look after yourself.