Daughter's relationships - always end the same

Totally see what you are saying hollysteers it’s very different making a decision to prefer being alone to having lost someone and failing to find anyone else suitable and that is hard very hard on your daughter and on you I m not going into any details but I understand how worrying it is
I m not sure there is anything you can do but support her

MOnica you make some good points, but you are generalising. The OPs daughter wants someone to share her life with, it is a natural human need for many men and women.
At 41, she clearly has decided that she does not want to be alone.
Loneliness is a great problem and although you paint a rosy picture of an independent old age, the truth is that that is not the case for a large proportion of the population.

Why on earth do you want her to see a Doctor? she isn’t ill.

I echo what MOnica says.

I am curious why you think your daughters happy future can only happen with a partner?

My DD decided very young that she was not suited to being in a partnership or having children. She is coming up to 50 now and has made a happy and independent life for herself. She has her own home and plenty of friends, male and female, has been able to concentrate on her career without needing to juggle it with childcare.

I have several female friends who have never married and, now heading for 80, and live independent social lives, with close family contacts with siblings and nieces and nephews.

It is time we stopped assuming that a relationship was the be all and end all of life and you cannot be happy and secure without one.

Perhaps, if you encouraged your daughters to realise that having a partner is not a sign of success, or an answer to life's problems, they have surely discovered that by now, and that, while they would prefer a partner, they should try seeing the future in terms of being proud and successful single women.

Snap Skydancer.......you could be talking about my daughter...same scenario. I worry about her so much. Since her divorce from the father of her children, she has not a steady relationship. She has 2 teenage children, who will soon be going to University. I am not going to be here forever. She is a difficult girl ...even her brothers say so.
But there’s nothing we can do Skydancer, but hope and pray that things will change.
Her dad and I are divorced and that has been hard on her. She was close to her Dad, but since he remarried, things have changed.
Let’s hope our daughters will find happiness eventually .