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HELP! Online dating advice required

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MaxieF Sat 26-Jun-21 18:53:39

As the contact has decreased I dont want to start messaging lots, especially as he is usually the one to message first.

Gosh, I feel like a school girl!

Should I wait for him to ask to meet me again?

M

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Mattsmum2 Sat 26-Jun-21 18:52:21

MaxieF

Thanks Mattmum2, We are half an hour from each other during the week - he hasnt started the job yet, he starts on Tuesday so this week has been the first time he has been down for a few days.

I know his property fell through and he was trying to secure a new place.

he is planning to come back at weekends as he has elderly parents and he doesnt want to move there permanently.

He has been divorced for 5 years.

M

Thanks. Give him some space, then once he is in contact you will be so happy xx

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MaxieF Sat 26-Jun-21 18:47:28

Thanks Mattmum2, We are half an hour from each other during the week - he hasnt started the job yet, he starts on Tuesday so this week has been the first time he has been down for a few days.

I know his property fell through and he was trying to secure a new place.

he is planning to come back at weekends as he has elderly parents and he doesnt want to move there permanently.

He has been divorced for 5 years.

M

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Mattsmum2 Sat 26-Jun-21 18:44:44

You haven’t said how far you both are from each other during the week? Why does he come back at weekends? What’s his situation, divorced, widowed, single?
It may be that he is tired and has a lot on his plate.
As you’re writing this, do you have concerns?
Allow him a few weeks to settle in and then have an honest conversation about how the relationship should progress. Firstly you should both delete your accounts on plenty of fish, if there is any future.
Chill for a while, this is not a competition. Hope it works out for you both x

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Esspee Sat 26-Jun-21 18:43:23

My goodness, he has a lot on his plate at the moment. No way would I be expecting constant texts in his situation.
Give him some space, perhaps the odd text in the evening to see how he is doing and offers to help if needed.
If he is interested he will respond when he can.

P.S. I met my OH on Plenty of Fish.

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MaxieF Sat 26-Jun-21 18:35:09

Hello

I am looking for online dating advice if you may.

I met a man from Plenty of fish 1 month ago and have been on 5 dates with him.

I was away with some girlfriends at a cottage last week and texted him one evening and asked "how do you think this is going"...

He said it is still early days but thinks we get along, I am good company, we both have a laugh and that he thinks I look good. He then asked what I thought and I said pretty much the same thing.

He was really keen to meet up straight away when I was back home so we did the day after I got home (this was date 4 - no, we did not sleep together).

I've known from date 1, that he has accepted quite a senior job at an organistion in Wales and he plans to work there Mon - Fri and return home at weekends. This week he had to go down for a few days and move into his new place and meet his new team. He offically starts on Tuesday so is moving down there tomorrow night.

After date 4, the communication went a little bit quiet, we normally text all day, everyday. I called him out on this and said if he didnt want to talk anymore, all he had to do was say... he then replied saying he has been busy going to the Drs (re health concern I know about), has been tierd from his 2nd covid vaccine and moving all his stuff to Wales.

So we have been texting a little and last night I decided to phone him. He asked what my weekend plans were and then said he isnt available this weekend to do anything due to the move but asked if I wanted to meet for breakfast when I mentioned I was meeting my friend this afternoon.

We met for breakfast and afterwards he gave me a tiny peck which was a bit strange but perhaps he didnt want his neighbours seeing as I was parked outside his house.

He is still active on plenty of fish but so am I.

Also, to be clear, I always wait for him to initiate conversation and to make plans...

So what do you think? Is he still interested?

Has he just genuinely been very busy with moving/health/vaccine? to be clear, I saw him on Sunday and then this morning (Saturday)

Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated.

M

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