Arrange to meet for coffee (lunch is good too. It’s a measure of your date if he’s kind enough to treat you too! ) but only after u have chatted via the official website for a bit. Initially, don’t give out anything too personal or too much detail about where u live or work. Keep it simple. Don’t exchange mobile or landline numbers too soon. Ask Mr Google if he has an on line footprint. Only chat at first via the dating website.
Before your meeting, tell someone where you’re going & who u plan to meet. This is important. Tell them when you’re safely home too.
IF you decide you do not want to meet again, a simple one or two lines via text or email is sufficient. Don’t need to make excuses or go into lots of detail.
Keep your antenna up at all times & if he dares to ask, even for the price of a stamp, be very very careful!
If an awkward situation arises, remember you’re in charge. You simply walk away. After all, he’s a stranger until you decide to change the status quo!
After a while you get to suss out the “players”, the charlatans, the blokes who are only after one thing, the liars & the cheaters. The language they use in emails is an insight and some chaps put up ancient photos which don’t resemble them now!
Don’t get too hung up on things. Relax, take care & enjoy the date.
It worked for me & we’re very happy together. Engaged even ….