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To stay or go?

(91 Posts)
Oopsadaisy1 Wed 14-Jul-21 05:38:22

I can only echo what everyone else is saying.
Someone who cares about you would have taken you to have tests done, not let you go alone.

Don’t waste any more time on this man, get out with your daughter and have a happy life.

TrendyNannie6 Tue 13-Jul-21 23:40:43

Why are you still with this moron after 12 years, so when you ask for help he says no, what a charmer NOT, you deserve better as does your daughter, Run, or you will be in this same position years from now,

Esspee Tue 13-Jul-21 23:29:55

Surprised you have stayed in the relationship as long as you have. The sooner you leave the better for you and your daughter.

gt66 Tue 13-Jul-21 22:55:06

Would you include him if you were making a meal for yourself and daughter? If the answers yes, but he doesn't do the same for you, then you have your answer. It's simple curtesy surely.

I'm surprised you're still with him after 12 years to be frank!

He needs a damn good wake up call!

Lucca Tue 13-Jul-21 22:45:10

What does the relationship give you that is positive?
If the answer is nothing then make the break now.

Redhead56 Tue 13-Jul-21 22:39:57

He helped your dad with an issue probably to make himself look good. But of course you know he isn't it's not just you to be considered it's your daughter too. It's best for both of you to start a fresh and I hope you do.?

lavenderzen Tue 13-Jul-21 22:24:01

You must leave. Do not stay and hope it will get better - I can assure you it will not. You deserve better. Good luck.

Nannylovesshopping Tue 13-Jul-21 22:20:43

Run as fast as your legs will carry you, and keep running!

Localandlost Tue 13-Jul-21 22:10:36

I'm just so confused by it all. My dad had an issue recently and he stepped in and sorted that. But when I needed help with something it was an outright no. I'm very independent and can manage most things but just occasionally I would like to be taken care of. That doesn't seem unreasonable.

BlueBelle Tue 13-Jul-21 22:09:55

Better alone which you are anyway, get out no point in staying really is there ?

Mancjules Tue 13-Jul-21 22:08:07

Yes get out...it's not normal. Look after yourself.

Shanavine Tue 13-Jul-21 22:07:13

Nope it's not normal sorry.
It's hard to see it from the inside but it does not appear to be a healthy relationship.

Localandlost Tue 13-Jul-21 22:07:12

So this isn't normal?

Shinamae Tue 13-Jul-21 22:05:16

As fast as you can and don’t look back

Hithere Tue 13-Jul-21 22:04:24

Run

Localandlost Tue 13-Jul-21 22:01:37

I have been with my partner for over 12 years. We are very different people and over the years that's become increasingly apparent. He very much takes care of himself for example I will get in from work and he is already cooking his meal, or even eating it. There will be no sign of a meal for me or my daughter. He plays a very limited role in her life. I don't feel I can rely on him. When I ask for help, which is rare, I often get no. I have had two health scares recently, the first he knew about but didn't wish me luck when I went for my tests, didn't offer to come with me and never enquired about the result. I never bothered telling him about the second as there was no point. I feel like we are together but living separate lives. I worry I'm chasing a dream. Perhaps this is normal? But I feel so lonely and sad. Surely a relationship is caring for each other. I'm so close to leaving.