Help me get over this bizarre and hurtful accusation

FarNorth

Speak to DH on your own and ask "You didn't seriously think I was cheating, did you?"

Yes, exactly.
Then follow it up with how harmful that was as it suggested to the three year old that grandma cheats at cards.Not on!

Thanks, BigBerthal, I wish I could just joke my way out of it. I don't have the temperament for that. I guess I'll resurface in a while. I'm very grateful that people are taking the trouble to reply, though - that helps a lot.

Well if my DH did something like that he would have the mickey taken out of him for hours for being a pedantic grumpy old whatnot.

Speak to DH on your own and ask "You didn't seriously think I was cheating, did you?"

I’ve always tried to follow the mantra: Least said, soonest mended.
Unfortunately I live with someone who likes to pick apart an argument about an argument ?

Thanks for these answers - it's weird how a small thing can plunge me right down. I feel better for having your wise words.

I would have laughed it off and told him not to be daft. I wouldn't bring it up unless he did. Sometimes we get irrationally annoyed about other people's words or actions. It might be that you are feeling particularly sensitive at the moment or it's symptomatic of your relationship with him and you've had enough. Try to put it out of your mind.

Think you need to discuss this with H privately asap and put forward the point of how it would look to the children. We're they bothered or did it all play a part in the skirmish of the game? Only you can assess that. Perhaps you were even being over sensitive as I note you said you wanted the little one to win. I completely understand your reasoning over that as it would encourage her. Very interesting how we all react differently to situations.

Not a lot you can do except say - once - what you know to be true and move on. That feeling,though, of someone who knows you well getting you so wrong is a horrible one. It happened to me once (with an old friend, not a DH) and the scenario was more involved but I felt shaken and dreadful for quite some time afterwards. I haven’t been in touch.