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Is this normal?

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BBbevan Sat 21-Aug-21 07:07:19

Not good that sort of behaviour is it? I would be most offended

mumofmadboys Sat 21-Aug-21 06:56:02

Ask him how he would feel if you continually eye up other men.

BigBertha1 Sat 21-Aug-21 06:44:18

Some men are just like that and incurable. Others like my other half wouldn't notice if other women strolled about naked. They are what they are and we put up with them....or not. I wonder if your husband would continue with this if you stopped noticing it and remarking on it.

Allsorts Sat 21-Aug-21 06:35:37

I would be acutely embarrassed and offended by his behaviour and find it unacceptable. Don’t know how anyone would find it didn’t bother them. It seems as if you have just put up with it so he is unlikely to ever change. I think most would not be interested in a man in his 60’s though, probably feel sorry for his partner.

Eviebeanz Sat 21-Aug-21 05:53:45

I'm wondering if you've been together for a long time and he has always been like this of if it started later on in your relationship. It feels as if it's something that you have been unhappy about for a while.
Some men do become slightly more disinhibited or inappropriate as they get older which can be linked to dementia but I'm not sure this is what is happening here. I don't think women in their twenties usually have interest in men in their sixties though. Look after yourself and don't let this make you feel bad.

BlueBelle Sat 21-Aug-21 04:44:34

No it’s not normal for a married or committed man but some men are full on flirts it’s not comfortable for you but if he’s always done it that is the man you hooked up with and he won’t change now, that’s his norm always on the lookout for a bit of flirting, a bit of flattery, a bit of attention, as you say it’s more noticeable now as you had less mixing in lockdown but that’s it I m afraid it’s as normal to him as breathing
Has he ever been unfaithful or are you suspicious he may
have ?
It’s vey unflattering and uncomfortable for you but no it’s not the norm and no he won’t change

welbeck Sat 21-Aug-21 03:40:25

but presumably he has been doing this all the time, and you were happy to marry him.
it's going to be difficult to change now. unless he wants to, and makes a great effort. which seems unlikely.
sorry. but i think anyone would hate that. nor is it universal.

NotSpaghetti Sat 21-Aug-21 01:50:26

*generally

NotSpaghetti Sat 21-Aug-21 01:50:12

No they don't genrrally do this.

Hithere Sat 21-Aug-21 01:03:20

Nope
Not at all
No

How disrespectful of him, for you and for other women

Jezra Sat 21-Aug-21 00:18:07

Do all men eye, size women up, look at every single woman? I feel like my DH has been doing this always but it seems more noticeable to me now.
It felt good during lockdown as I felt I had his full attention but of course we are back out and mixing again and it has all started up again.
I am not imagining it as some women seem to love it, then look at me with pity in their eyes. Other women, especially the really young ones find it funny ( he is in his late 60’s).
He always talks about the young woman next door in her 20’s and looks to see if she is about and if she is will engage her in conversation. He also looks for the woman two doors down who is in her 30’s and does the same.
If we are in a restaurant or cafe and we are talking to each other his eyes flit ti every woman that passes by or any woman sitting behind me and I find it really irritating. I’ve told him I don’t like it but it falls on deaf ears and he says that’s pathetic and over reacting. Is it?