Over 60’s how many still have sex

Lucca

Finally.

I didn't say I agree Lucca. I'm merely acknowledging I heard you!!!! ?

If S i L and I had not been able to talk, we would have a major problem. She, without knowing the detail, but could probably guess it, provided a solution, for which I am eternally grateful.

If your sponges don't rise, you say so and ask for possible cures.
For something that is so much more important, a solution to a problem needs to be found. And only by talking with family, or friends is it likely to be found.
On GN we are anonymous, so should be able to seek advice from others without any face to face embarrassment.
If you are fortunate enough not to have a problem, you may be able to help someone who has!

Suffering in silence could be detrimental in a number of ways.

Finally.

Ok Lucca!!!!

nadateturbe

Lucca it is generally thought of in our society as a taboo subject.
I'm not suggesting people discuss their favourite sex toys but if there's a problem it would be good if folk were able to talk about it, same as any problem.

It is not taboo !!!! Discuss away. I’m just not up for joining in,

I think anything can be discussed on here. The oP sounds really sad and her husband might have a health issue. That shouldn't be tabboo

It’s not taboo, but I wouldn’t talk about my sex life with anyone.
People are free to discuss it with their friends, if that’s what floats their boat, but not mine. it was unwritten rule, what was private stayed private, I would have felt extremely upset if my husband had talked about us with anyone, as he would with me. Any problems the two of you sort it.I’ve never met anyone who didn’t feel the same. In any relationship it would be the same.

Lucca it is generally thought of in our society as a taboo subject.
I'm not suggesting people discuss their favourite sex toys but if there's a problem it would be good if folk were able to talk about it, same as any problem.

I had a similar problem, my wife (same sex civil partnership) was living abroad for much of the year and not particularly interested when we were together. I solved the issue by having an affair with another woman. It was passionate and totally restored my confidence in myself. Unfortunately it caused untold problems with my long term relationship which may never heal. Do I regret it….I don’t think so.

Well done Cleo 51 for bringing this up, a courageous thing to do on this site. I think this is quite a common problem. Would he agree to seeing a therapist? It does seem though that his problem stems from erectile dysfunction and this is a medical problem and although he has been to the doctor with this he is not admitting to it or facing up to it.

It does not concern me if others discuss their sex lives, but I choose, and like mine to be private.
I dont consider not discussing your sex life shows how deep your friendship is.

It is horrible to feel alone. If OP feels comfortable seeking support for this issue, those who aren't comfortable discussing it can back out an those who are willing an able to support her can contribute.

People can discuss what they like. However I'm not remotely interested discussing my sex life, nor do I want to hear about my friend's sex life.

Just is of no interest to me.

My mother had dementia and one day she told me how she and my father had had a good sex life. I almost fainted. Clutched my pearls and reached for the smelling salts.

My friends and I talk about both of those, and more dragonfly. I've moaned about how my employer has 'massaged' my working hours to get extra work for no extra salary, my friends have talked about their investments or conversely their debt. I guess it depends on the level of friendship.

nadateturbe

I wonder why talking about our sexual life is so taboo. It's an area that can affect a relationship/ marriage so much if there are problems.
I remember saying to my best friend there was something I wanted to ask her about being an older couple ( can't remember what the question was). But the look of shocked horror on her face was unbelievable as she thought I was going to ask her something personal. I wouldn't ever do that! And we've been best friends for over sixty years!

Who said it was taboo ? I just don’t choose to but it’s up to others what they talk about.

I wouldn’t discuss my sex life with my friends in the same way that I would not discuss my finances. It is not a case of being prudish.

I would not talk about my sex life in anything other than a very general way with my friends. I don't think it's an age thing. It's a private thing. I would not expect my husband to discuss our sex life with his friends either.

Possibly an age thing. Although I remember my mum gossiping to her friend about a fastidious neighbour putting a towel on the bed beforehand. (I hadn't a clue what she meant at the time)
I don't see it as any different either.

Is it an age thing? I talk about it with my friends. I don't see it as any different to any other aspect of life.

I wonder why talking about our sexual life is so taboo. It's an area that can affect a relationship/ marriage so much if there are problems.
I remember saying to my best friend there was something I wanted to ask her about being an older couple ( can't remember what the question was). But the look of shocked horror on her face was unbelievable as she thought I was going to ask her something personal. I wouldn't ever do that! And we've been best friends for over sixty years!

Blossoming . I agree we can read whatever we want ! And comment for that matter

^Blossoming
We use usernames! Nobody knows us, that that was the whole idea you can discuss what you what ?
Why did you read my thread then? We’re all different what you wouldn’t do doesn’t mean I won’t^

Well that told me! I read most threads, and if I have an opinion I give it. And my opinion is l wouldn’t discuss it on a public forum. I shall remember not to comment on anything you post in future, but I can’t promise not to read things.

Our sex life ground to a halt when DH developed cancer at 60. 10 years of on and off chemotherapy meant he lost all interest. I was a bit disappointed because I'd always imagined us bouncing around in bed together well into our 70. However my oldest friend was in the same situation when her husband became seriously ill and our other close friend had been a widow for years so we came to accept that that's how life is.

Interesting GT57. When I posted my 'Indeed' after your post I meant it in a lighthearted way but I too have always been considered prudish by my 2 sisters and even my mum!
I wouldn't seriously discuss my sex life with any of my friends.

I remember Boy George saying in the eighties, that he would rather have a cup of tea!! He could only have been about 20!