Over 60’s how many still have sex

Feeling both disappointed and baffled here at some of the responses to the original post. My main reason for joining this site was the hope that I could ask other people my age (I'm 60) advice/thoughts about things I am unable to discuss with my friends - lack of sex in my marriage being one of them! Apart from the fact that I don't have close friends who are my age and in a relationship with an older husband with health problems, all my friends know my husband and I don't feel it's right for them to be looking at him knowing what's going on. At the same time, I have had quite a few conversations with my husband over the last 5 years but unfortunately the situation has continued to go downhill.
But back to the original reason for me commenting on this thread - why, if someone is uncomfortable about talking about sex - at any age - do they then comment in a negative way on a discussion thread that clearly has 'sex' in the title? It isn't helpful to the OP and it also makes new folk such as myself wonder whether being on here is a good idea. ?
I really feel for Clio51 and not only can I understand why she started this thread but I also think she was brave in doing so, given some of the responses she received.

Harriet4. Look on the thread about Oral Sex. It may help.

Take a lover ?
“Wash that young man down and bring him to my tent”
Cher?

Wonderful Katie59 Heartening to see some happy stories.

After 10 yrs of no intimacy at all ending in divorce, a new man brought everything back to life, I’d forgotten just how good it felt to be “wanted”, long may it last.

Harriet4
Have just read your post and feel really upset for you. A Hysterectomy has been suggested to me for my own medical issues (actually caused by the medical profession themselves--but that's another story). I just wanted to ask you if you've tried estrogen pessaries because I don't think the creams are as good, at least not for me. Thought it worth asking because I do know how that lack of intimacy can feel in a loving relationship, especially when the woman feels as if it is somehow their fault or feels that their own femininity is threatened. You may have already tried this route so sorry if I'm no help. Sincere best wishes.

I’m in my early 60’s and my husband is 67. I had a hysterectomy and oopherectomy 9yrs ago for very heavy periods and since then sex has been impossible. The surgeon told me to get rid of my ovaries too as they were no longer of any use to me and may cause cancer so I agreed. They were probably packing up but now I produce no eostrogen and despite trying HRT patches, nearly every cream on the market, penetrative sex is impossibly painful so I have reluctantly given up now.
We both are very sad and disappointed. I have spoken to my GP and she has been very sympathetic but nothing prescribed has ever helped nor has anything I have bought over the counter either.
I guess I’m just too old and post menopausal! I speak to my friends and some still have an active sex life and some don’t at all. I feel very upset about it all and never imagined when I was younger that I would have to give up sex in my 60s. It has made me very upset at times. My husband is very supportive and understanding but he still would like to have sex and I feel I’ve let him down.
I continue to use oestrogen cream 3 times a week to stay comfortable but it doesn’t help make sex possible.
Some of my friends in their late 50s and early 60s use an hrt cream and say it has been wonderful and put things back to normal. I’m not sure why it hasn’t helped me. My GP won’t give me HRT tablets or patches now as she says it’s not safe in the over 60s so I’ve had it!
I really feel let down as there doesn’t seem to be any help out there for women of my age. We are just written off as too old after the menopause.
Has anyone else had similar experiences?

Our relationship hit troubles once he couldn’t perform as it were. I’m not sure we will pull through it. Arguments. Separate rooms. Indifference.

“MissChateline”. Go sister ??

Ohmother. Recommend the affair wholeheartedly. I rediscovered what it was like to be happy again and to have hope for the future. I gained a huge understanding of my own self worth an after years of being pushed away I learned just how important it is to feel loved and valued.

I’m over 60 and still have sex with my 70+ year old OH…..in my head. He’s not interested in intimacy any more. We’ve discussed it over the years so no further options. ☹️ Except perhaps an affair with someone who will make me feel good about my sexiness again ?

I am nearly 63 and DH has 10 years on me. We had issues in that department for a number of years, too. When things didn't function, it also took a toll on him and then he became his own worse enemy (trying too hard, thinking too much, feeling a disappointment to me, etc.). During my annual doctor appointment when she asked the personal questions I told her there was nothing in that department. She said that most men need a little help in that area and encouraged me to encourage him to talk to his doctor. If you remind your man how great he was back in the day and nicely speak of it again, you two will sort it all out. Weight issues, bad backs, etc. can sometimes make finishing difficult, but the help from a good back massager can help both of you separately (but together) get over the cliff. You can even keep your panties on if you want. You both get the intimacy and it makes for a happier household. Wishing you the best!

Gagajo ?

GagaJo, Snap. ?

nadateturbe

I thought you were joking Sweetpeasue. But there really is! Gosh, I think we'll all need a lie down.

I'm not lying down until I'm sure he's asleep. ?

I thought you were joking Sweetpeasue. But there really is! Gosh, I think we'll all need a lie down.

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BTW this thread is looking very tame compared to the one on Oral sex.
Think I need a lie down.

Jaxjacky

More baking powder kircubbin2000.

More baking powder kircubbin2000.

Puzzled

If S i L and I had not been able to talk, we would have a major problem. She, without knowing the detail, but could probably guess it, provided a solution, for which I am eternally grateful.

If your sponges don't rise, you say so and ask for possible cures.
For something that is so much more important, a solution to a problem needs to be found. And only by talking with family, or friends is it likely to be found.
On GN we are anonymous, so should be able to seek advice from others without any face to face embarrassment.
If you are fortunate enough not to have a problem, you may be able to help someone who has!

Suffering in silence could be detrimental in a number of ways.

What was her solution?

1 of my thoughts too BBbevan! The rest I'm keeping to myself! ?

Thank you Sweetpeasue.

Sponge comnents

I thought the sponges were to do with contraception !!!!

Second that Nadateturbe.
Puzzled, I read the bit about 'If your sponges don't rise--' and hadn't realised the subject had switched to cakes. I've been pondering it for ages thinking of what type of sexual problem it could possibly be that contained sponges. Der! "?

Puzzled good post.