Grandson growing up is upsetting me.. daft I know...

If it's any consolation I remember losing interest in my Nanna at during that time. Now in my 30s she is the absolute centre of mine, my sister and cousins world. We all call her regularly, go around when we can. She is easily one of the most beloved people in my life.

Thanks, every one of you. I know I can always count on kind and supportive words from Gransnetters. Bless you all.

I still think of my dear grandparents almost every day. They were such a large part of my childhood and helped make me the person that I am today. The time spent with your DGS Skydancer will always be a part of him. Of course you're missing him. He's a big loss from your life. He'll be back!

It’s temporary you will get his attention back. He is just trying to be independent and grown up.?

I do think that 'covid times' have amplified normal emotions.
Don't worry about what you are feeling - completely normal. Enjoy the time that you do have together, whenever it happens - just the odd hour or so, or time at Xmas etc.
You could even try specifically asking him: Could we arrange to have a walk / play a game / whatever - and get a time that suits him? he may even respond well to a 'set time'.
And remember that all you have done with him is there, within him!

I looked after GS1 5 days a week from the age of 6 months until he started school. He often seemed like my own baby. Once he was at school I still did most of the drop offs and pick ups until he went on to secondary school. Now I don't see very much of him, he's nearly 15 and 6' 2" and spends most of his time in his room being a teenager. We have occasional outings (theatre this week) and when I recently gave him and his friends a lift home from school I wasn't made to feel like an embarrassment so I think we're OK!

I looked after my first GC from being just months old 3days a week until she went to school and then school pickup and tea until she was a teen.
We were exceptionally close due to family circumstances.
When the teen years came along we were still close but didn’t see so much of her but accepted it.
When my H died when she was 21 she moved in with me after a few months and is still here two years later.
We have our moments but she looks after me brilliantly and we are as close as ever.
A foundation built in the early years seldom crumbles.

So do /your/ own thing. Join the U3A

Granny23 thank you for such kind words. I know you are absolutely right of course. I'm a very emotional person and my family are my world but of course the young ones are all doing their own thing and sometimes I feel old and redundant. I've decided to treat myself to some new clothes and a nice day out. Something to lift the spirits.

I made him my world and perhaps I shouldn't have Please don't regret the time you spent with him. It will stay with you and with him as happy memories for the rest of your lives. As parents and grandparents, we raise the chicks to be confident, independent, happy people and must have the confidence to let them fly free in the big wide world. The bond built up in childhood will stand him in good stead and will be a safe haven for him to return to in times of stress as well as times of achievement.

There comes a time when Granny and Grandad just aren’t so important. Sad but true.

I was walking into town the other day, saw both my GC, (16 and 13) walking to school, opposite side of the road. I gave a cheery wave, GS’s hand went up and down very quickly, GD waved a bit more noticeably, but not much.

Not cool to be waving to Granny, your friends might see you!