If you wrote down what you look for in a partner, what would it say

This is very close to my husband! Not for sale....yet. Could be arranged ?. Seriously he’s not arty, but fits the Bill with many other attributes.I think the Christian is a definite for me too.

Being kind is top of the list, but there are other non negotiable traits
Non smoker
Willing and able to hunt down spiders when necessary.
Shares my taste in decor
Shares my sense of humour
Never begrudges me anything
Is a proper man who chops wood, and other manly things
Looks good in Wellington boots
Decent cook
And definitely not a loud mouthed know it all.

Someone who would enjoy spending most of his spare time and money doing diy in my home.

Tolérant, similar (warped) sense of humour, ‘mucks in’, likes sport, can laugh at himself, honest, not fussed about pets, good personal hygiene.

And non smoker.

Not too skinny, not too fat
Fit to do decorating and household maintenance.
Gsoh
Likes a cuddle
Clean
Solvent
Likes animals
Has hobbies/interests to keep him out of my way
No football or sports fanatics
Likes history, TV dramas, films, books, art.
Intelligent and not too woke.
Responsible.
Not be a show off, twat.

Miss Adventure you have just described my husband, apart from the hairy chest ??

Someone who shares the same core values as me.

When he came along he happened to be ten years younger, was my best friend, really rather messy, but also I can say he’s still the kindest, most generous man I’ve met in my life (and I know some good ones).

Kind, caring, funny, clean (!), intelligent, thoughtful, able to listen, cuddly, sociable, sensible (mostly!), a good cook, able to undertake routine daily household & garden tasks, but knows when to call in a tradesman if needed. Likes to be with my family & shares my interests. Fun to be with, but not an "over-the-top" person. Oh, and did I mention good-looking and sexy? (Thank goodness I met him, nearly 40 years ago - this is my DH.)

I’ve never looked for a partner, but I found one anyway.

M0nica

What I said when I started - non-smoker, must be tidy.

Well, he is a non-smoker, and one cannot have everything.

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Non smoker, kind nature, not gloomy, must like books and pets.Luckily....Mr L is all of those things.

Are you sure that’s a man you’re describing Neen ?

I said I wanted to marry someone tall and dark, I knew a boy when I was young who had awful BO it put me off the name.
I married, he was the same height as me, quite dark haired, but, he had the name! 51 years still together.

vain, lazy, weedy, or mean with money

Witzend you’ve just described my ex husband. I should have listened to my Mum!

Similar sense of humour to me. Without that it would never work

Grannynannywanny ?.

Mine are very boring - kind and solvent, not vain, lazy, weedy, or mean with money.
Thighs heftier than mine!

I hasten to add she said it in jest. My Mum and Dad had 64 happy years together.

I’ll quote my Mum from many decades ago when we had this conversation…

Over 90 years old
A very healthy bank account
A bad cough
One foot in the grave
The other foot on a banana skin ?

I met my husband online 8 years ago - after being persuaded to do the online dating thing by a very dear friend. We met each other after talking online for a few weeks and both knew by the end of that first coffee together that "we were meant to be". We've both had previous not so nice relationships but we promised to always be honest with each other. We are - and I honestly never believed I could be so happy

What I said when I started - non-smoker, must be tidy.

Well, he is a non-smoker, and one cannot have everything.

I am reminded of the lady who wrote to an agony aunt because she thought her daughter was gay because she said she was looking for a wife. The answer was that what every working woman wants is a wife - someone who can cook and clean, pay bills on time and remember important dates, Add a sense of humour and you've got a husband.

Big, kind, funny, solvent, confident (but absolutely no showing off!)
Sense of humour, animal lover, non drinker, quirky, dark hair, hairy chest (but never nostrils) beard, moustache... hang on, I'm sure I'll think of more.
Music lover, non sulker, no drama, nice speaking voice.
There is probably more, too.
Luckily, I'm not looking, which is why I'm being so picky.
Good cook.

Kindness