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If you wrote down what you look for in a partner, what would it say

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BigBertha1 Fri 24-Sept-21 22:01:34

Solvent
Funny
Loves a cuddle
Sensible nd practical
Generous with time and feelings
Tidy and clean
Good conversationalist
Can cook a basic meal
Puts the lid down

GagaJo Fri 24-Sept-21 21:50:09

Socialist. Other than that, it's about whether I like them or not. And that can't be predefined.

ElderlyPerson Fri 24-Sept-21 21:44:26

I remember hearing a joke about a man who supposedly went to a marriage bureau and, asked what he sought in a wife, he said a great long list about being entertaining and not criticising him and so on and including being quiet when he wanted her to be quiet.

And the lady at the marriage bureau said that he did not need a wife, he needed a television set. smile

Neen Fri 24-Sept-21 21:31:44

I'm absolutely not looking and finally found me and what I like/ don't and also I don't have to say yes to everything etc Im 54 and have some healthy boundaries and begining to be on the path I should have been on a long time ago but I hadn't learnt yet what I was meant to. I ignored so many red flags in my time, that I am now really good at spotting them and a friend said to me yesterday, what would you look for in a man in a year or two when your ready. I said I wouldn't ! But after I thought about it. If I did write down my thoughts, it would be : older than me, strong/ happy in who he is as a person, uses humbly the wisdom he's learnt, arty, grateful for small blessings,
Someone who accepts you-to not later want to change you, not a heavy drinker /smoker, enjoys walks and finding a little gem of a nature place, funny, kind, strong in boundaries and has self care, listens to hear, enjoys cake and cuppas, knows how to be calm and respond not react, someone whose smile is genuine and who takes his time. Who doesn't mind me doing Claire's and Sarah's law as I've 5 Grandchildren. Someone who likes tranquil, not loud noise. Someone who has a calming voice to listen to. A Christian man strong in his faith, someone who likes to give back, who has his own friends and space.

Over to you ..
Still not interested but does make me realise wow.
It's good knowing yourself better as you age ?