My Friend.

I knew my DH when I was 18 and him 19. We lived quite a distance apart then so the relationship stopped after a few months. Like you beautybumble I then went on to have a very unhappy marriage and eventually left my ex.

My DH and I discovered each other again after 44 years but the distance apart was even greater (350 miles). We talked on the phone for hours and after 4 weeks we decided to meet half way. A lovely B+B was booked with a room each. After two wonderful days I invited DH to visit me and I then visited him.

After four visits we decided to live together. I sold and moved to live with him as he still worked. One year later we married. This year we've celebrated 5 years together.

My family were over the moon that I had found such a lovely person and encouraged me to grab that happiness. I left all my family and friends behind to be with DH. I do still miss my friends but family come to stay with us. I occasionally visit my DD.

You've had short visits to each other. Try that visit for a month beautybumble. I wish you so much happiness. DH and I are in our early 70's too.

That proves that where's there's a will there's a way, muse.

I think you should take the plunge and suggest meeting, make arrangements, beautybumble then at least you will know one way or another and can move forwards.

You need to think more of you, and less about commitments. I’m sure if he feels the same, he could lessen his workload. It may mean you spending more time at his place, but why not?

The point is...you’re lonely, so something is missing in your family’s commitment to you.

Just do it beautybumble. You’ll regret it if you don’t.

All the best?

No Lucca, 8 hours door to door.

DiscoDancer1975. You've hit the nail on the head. I will rethink it all and do something positive. Thank you all for your kindness, its made things seem clearer.

beautybumble

No Lucca, 8 hours door to door.

Goodness how far are you both from a station ? Just asking !!

Maybe a nice long weekend in a country hotel somewhere and spend a bit of time somewhere neutral where nobody is hosting or cooking or worrying. Life is short, grab it. Muse, your story is lovely as is yours peas blossom.

Now that’s a lovely romantic tale muse, perhaps that’ll inspire you beautybumble, go for it.

There is no rehearsal for life.
Yesterday, we attended the funeral of dear S i L.
I regret the things that I did not do for M mi L F i L and my parents.
If you want to do something; find a way to do it!
At least you will have a better knowledge of how things stand between you.
You might be denying the companionship that you both crave.
Find out!

beautybumble

DiscoDancer1975. You've hit the nail on the head. I will rethink it all and do something positive. Thank you all for your kindness, its made things seem clearer.

You’re very welcome. Hope things work out for you ?

My late mother in law was still travelling to Abergele from Southend in her 80s.
Her man friend ? would visit her. When he visited we were told not to visit mum as he was embarrassed.

OP

You seem to have romantized this "relationship"

Are you sure he sees the same way you do?

If anybody wants something or somebody, nothing stops that person from achieving it